Month: January 2024

Funds Management in Excel

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At the beginning of every year, I set up two spreadsheets in Excel. One is for our personal money management, and one is for each property’s expenses in the year (that will eventually be put into Schedule E in our taxes). I regularly mention using Excel to track your income and bills, so here’s a quick snapshot of what I do.

These are all dummy numbers, but otherwise, this is my spreadsheet set up (with several lines eliminated to reduce your visual clutter). The top purple section is rental income per house, the green section is rental property expenses, the blue section is our home’s bills, the gray section is what affect’s Mr. ODA’s account instead of our main checking account (Mr. ODA has his original account from before our marriage (I have access to view it) because of benefits associated with the linked credit card, and it was never worth closing it or adding my name to it). The white is what’s left over. The blue section is not necessary to be a different color and is left over from another way I tracked bills, but I’ve left it to differentiate home bills versus credits and investments.

The final line of “Other*” captures items that only occur once or twice a year, but have a significant impact on the checking account or is a deadline I want to be aware of. I keep the preschool registration fees on there so that it’s on my radar that registration comes due at about this time. In future months, I have taxes that are due for houses we have not escrowed, which is about $1500 worth in June and about $4000 worth in October.

The columns are organized by Mr. ODA’s pay check date. His pay check appears in the account every other Saturday, so that’s the date at the top. Then I’ve put all the income or expenses that align between that pay check’s date and the next pay check’s date in that column. This helps me project whether I’ll need a transfer from savings to cover the checking account balance. This particular section of the spreadsheet doesn’t show account balances, but you get the gist of the organization.

Each year, this is tweaked a little. I eliminate lines that are no longer necessary (for instance, our HOA is now paid annually, so I don’t need a line taking up space for a once-per-year bill). I add lines that become necessary (cable used to be paid by credit card, but now there’s a fee for that; since it affects our checking account monthly, it gets a line). It would probably be better to separate out my “investments” line into the specific transactions that happen each month, but I didn’t want more lines on my spreadsheet.

When rent is received or a bill is paid, I change the font color to gray. This indicates that it’s done and helps eliminate visual clutter for me. I can focus on the black font, which indicates to me it’s still due.

As I get closer to each pay check column, I update the projections. For example, a credit card may have had more than average expenses on it. This could happen because one credit card has a quarterly bonus for gas purchases. So while it’s typically $100 for a statement, it may be more like $200 because of the gas purchases on it. I update the projected payment because I need to monitor the checking account balance too. I also keep last year’s utility bill amounts in each column. I use this to track whether this year’s payment is comparable to last year’s at this time, so I know whether to look further into a bill because it’s significantly different than last year’s (for example, if last year’s June gas bill was $30, and this year’s June gas bill is $60, I want to check to see why it doubled, whether that means a leak or error in billing).

Every person’s tracking is going to look different. You may just have rent and utility bills to pay, and you can manage it via email notifications. You may want a more active approach to the tracking and use a spreadsheet in some fashion. This is just a start for you to have a visual in how a spreadsheet may be helpful in your money management, and may even help eliminate late fees or billing errors because you’re more actively managing your money.

New Year Financial Organization

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Two weeks ago, I shared how I organize my home and manage my time. I have my own home’s finances, thirteen rental properties, three kids with two in school, investments, and whatever other ad hoc bills show up to manage. I don’t have the ability to think in a quiet and distraction-free environment after 7:30 am. That post was all about the little steps I take at the beginning and end of my day that help set me up for success. This week is what I’ve done to organize our finances to ensure bills are paid on time, while managing it against what income I’m expecting. This also has tidbits on organizing yourself so you don’t end up with missed bills.

One problem that I run into is business hours. I seem to be working with a lot more companies that won’t let me make payments online and require a phone call. It’s so frustrating. So after a morning of my chores and managing the 3 kids, I need to put on my big girl pants and muster the energy to make my phone calls while the baby naps (and the two big kids are likely placed in front of the tv… except they like to tell me about the show they’re watching while they watch). Then there are ones that are even worse because they require me to leave a message for someone to call me back, even though my ability to have a coherent conversation is really only within these 2 hours of the day. For example, I ended up scheduling my son’s surgery while finishing up check out at Home Depot and walking out the door with two children in tow.

FINANCIAL ORGANIZATION

Every year, I need to set up two spreadsheets. One keeps track of our income and bills, and the other keeps track of property-specific income and expenses. While an investment property tracking mechanism isn’t something that everyone needs, a way to manage your bills is. My financial tracking spreadsheet has been used in the same exact form since 2012, when Mr. ODA and I got married.

Before I get into the spreadsheet tracking mechanism, you can do something as simple as a calendar appointment. At this time, the preschool director sends an email with a new link every month to pay tuition. Last year, it was the same link all year with no reminder email. Since this was something I wasn’t used to, I made a calendar appointment on the first of every month that said “Tuition Due.” I check my calendar every few days at the very least, so I didn’t need it to notify me; but you can set it up to send a push notification or an email if you need one of those forms to help with the reminder.

Mr. ODA gets paid biweekly. The paycheck shows up in our account on a Saturday, so my tracking is by that date. For example, his paycheck showed up on the 6th this month. I also expected to have most of rent paid on the 5th (falls on a Friday, tenants have a grace period until the 5th without a late fee, and it’s just after the holidays). I have each house listed with their respective rent due. As rent comes in, I turn the font color to gray from black, which is my indication that it’s been received. If I’m not expecting rent until later in the month, then I move it out to that two-week period column.

For expenses, I list anything that will come due between the 6th and the 20th. This includes all mortgage payments, utility bills, credit card payments, and investments planned. Again, as they’re paid, I turn their font from black to gray.

This process is necessary for me because of the number of bills I have to manage. The spreadsheet is an indicator to me that a bill is coming due, so if I haven’t noticed an email or mailing with the bill amount by a certain date, I go search for it. I don’t want to miss a payment. Sometimes, a system is updated and your email is missed, or there’s a glitch, and then there’s no email sent as the trigger for me to pay it. I like having the spreadsheet as a “safety net” for our bills.

MAIL ORGANIZATION

Nearly all of my bills are sent electronically to my email, but I sometimes receive paper mail. It could be a medical bill, a rental’s utility bill, tax bills, etc. I open all my mail the day it’s received.
– I separate out the junk mail and put it immediately in the recycling bin. A pile of envelopes building up over the week just creates distractions. You see a big pile that needs attention, and it’s a daunting task. If you eliminate the things that don’t actually need your attention immediately, it leaves a smaller pile for you to see.
– I lay papers that don’t need action, but I want to keep on file, in a pile at the bottom of my stairs. Many of these could probably be eliminated because I have access online. But sometimes it’s easier to have a paper version available. For example, my EOBs are mostly available online. Sometimes they don’t load on the website, and sometimes I need to take notes on issues I’m working on with them (which is far more often than I’d care to admit for a service I’m paying for).
– I lay the papers that need action on my “to do” pile, which is in the kitchen. When I worked in an office and didn’t have kids, managing these bills was a lot easier. Now I’ve set up a routine where I check the pile every Friday. The pile is visually available; it’s not in a basket or a drawer. There have been a few times where time flew, and before I knew it, I hadn’t checked the pile in 3 weeks (newborn life!). The scare that I remembered to pay a bill right on the due date, and by sheer coincidence checked my pile that day, made me establish a more consistent expectation of myself to look at the pile every Friday.

EMAIL ORGANIZATION

When I was working, this was a hot topic. I stayed on a top of my email. I verified that someone else didn’t respond to an email before I responded. I didn’t attend a meeting and state that I hadn’t seen an email pertinent to the topic discussed. I didn’t have leadership coming to ask me for a response to something that they didn’t receive timely.

I hit low hanging fruit first and reduced the clutter. This is the same concept as getting rid of the junk mail you get. I skimmed “all employee” emails to see if it was pertinent to me. I either read it right away (because these are just reading emails and won’t require an action) or I deleted it right away. I see people often just leave it sitting in their inbox unread. It’s a distraction. You’re constantly looking at something that needs to be dealt with, and it’s taking brain power away from the things that you really need to focus on.

Then I looked at emails from my direct leadership team. These items could be not pertinent to me, could require immediate action, or could be part of a larger situation that needs attention. After that, I focused on emails from my counterparts at the State. They’re my “customer,” and typically these emails are issues that need addressed timely.

Essentially, I’m skimming all emails and mentally filing them into how quickly they need attention or how much effort they’re going to take. If I can answer an email without any further research or effort than just typing the response, then I do that. I then immediately file the email because it’s “done.” I get it out of my inbox so that I can continue to focus on what needs addressed. At the end of this, I should only have a few emails left for action, and I get to work.

I manage my email the same way now, for my personal needs. Store coupons and such get deleted right away. A coupon is rarely good for more than a month, so I use my trash as the filing system there (which gets automatically deleted every 30 days). If I go to Kohl’s, then I just do a search in my trash folder for the latest Kohl’s emails to see if I have a coupon. I keep all emails that require action in my inbox. Right now, I have a Walmart order confirmation (so I’m tracking to make sure it arrives), a medical bill, a reminder from the Y to pick up a shirt, and the kids’ tuition email. When I’m done writing this, I’m going to go pay the two bills and immediately file them into their respective folder. When my Walmart order arrives today, I’ll delete that email. I’ll be going to the Y in the next couple of days, and once I pick up my shirt, I’ll delete that email.

BILL PAYMENTS

A lot of people would prefer to set up an auto payment for their bills. This is fine too, but that means you need to be keeping a balance in your checking account to cover all bills. I prefer to pay the bills based on what’s projected to be in my checking account, which is variable throughout the month. Some months, the pay checks align that mortgage payments to be paid on the 5th, sometimes it’s the 10th. You can only transfer out of a savings account 6 times per month, so I’m always managing that aspect as well.

The problem with auto payment is that you’re probably using that to “set it and forget it.” That’s not a great approach with bills. It’s a good approach if you’re sending $500 a month into your Roth IRA account, but not great if it’s your utility bill. If you’re usually seeing an electric bill for $75, then suddenly get a bill for $150, are you looking to see why that occurred? I did. Last year, I had a bill for $210 show up suddenly. I checked the meter against what they said the estimated meter reading was. They told me that the difference didn’t amount to enough to warrant an immediate credit. I thought that was unfair; I can afford to float that, but I don’t think everyone could suddenly absorb such an increase. I didn’t pay 2.5 months worth of electric because the actual readings were so much lower for the next couple of months.

REDUCE SUBSCRIPTIONS

Do you know what you’re subscribed to? Pay attention to all your charges over the next 5 weeks. Carefully consider what’s coming through. I’ve heard people say they didn’t realize they were paying two FabFitFun boxes. I’ve heard people say they’re paying for a Stitch Fix subscription that they haven’t used in 3 years. There are companies and apps out there that are trying to sell you a product to review this on your behalf. Is it really worth paying a fee to see what fees you’re going to save money from? No. Just put the effort into reviewing your statements now. Set a reminder in your email to check your week’s worth of charges at the end of each week. Pay attention.

What that company won’t do is help you decide if a subscription is worth it. Are you paying for 5 streaming services? Are you currently watching shows on all 5 platforms? Probably not. Go through phases. If you’re only watching one show on a platform, then you probably only need that subscription for a month or two of the year. We were subscribed to Peacock, but the only thing we used that for was The Office, which we put on as background noise; we cancelled that.

Have you been paying attention that a subscription has increased its cost? Is it still worth that price to you? These are things that you should be routinely asking yourself.

SUMMARY

The same goal applies in your daily routine as it does here: reduce the clutter so you can pay attention to what’s important. Reduce the number of subscriptions that you have coming in, reduce the number of papers you need to go through by immediately throwing junk mail away, set up an organized bill system so you stay on top of it instead of opening your mail once every two months.

January Financial Update

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As an intro for newbies: I write a monthly finance post. These posts started out as a way to manage our dollars spent per category. It evolved to show insight into my monthly money management and thought process. It’s also meant as a way to remind people that they should be looking at their money regularly.

Every month, I’m looking back at my spending, looking at trends on the higher level (e.g., why is my credit card higher than I expected), and sharing the rental property expenses and activities that I’ve accomplished.

I typically post on Thursdays. Unfortunately, life got in the way. I had 98% of this written, but I hadn’t updated our accounts until 10 pm, so this is now posting off-schedule, on Friday morning. Sorry about that!

RENTALS

I suppose with 13 houses, it’s inevitable that I’ll have to keep track of one.. or a few.. to collect their rent. One tenant is set up to pay twice per month (they pay a premium for this). They paid both parts of December late, and the first part of January late. They pay a late fee with that. I had two other tenants pay late by a few days, but they communicated this up front, and I didn’t collect late fees.

I’ve been sharing that I have a tenant who has been behind on rent since October 1 and has communicated very poorly. By the end of December, she was caught up with rent due, but no late fees. We’re now 11 days into January without any payment. My frustration with her was that she didn’t communicate at all for the first two months, and didn’t keep her word on anything that she said she was going to do, but didn’t tell us that something would change. I always say that I’m willing to help and work with you, but you have to talk to me. If I have to beg you to tell me what the plan is, I can’t help.

I paid a carpet cleaner $250 and paid a painter $2000 for a house that we’re turning over. The carpet was new before the last tenant, but they were there for over 3 years, so it had to be done. They didn’t damage the walls, but my property manager said that all the walls looked like different colors, and I didn’t trust “touching up” 4 year old paint. The paint looks amazing, so I’m happy I went for the whole house.

I paid just over $1000 as a deposit on 3 new windows for a house, which are scheduled to be replaced on Monday (a couple of weeks for new windows far exceeded my expectations!). We had replaced the majority of windows when we bought the house. However, at the time, the kitchen and bathroom windows were considered an irregular size, and we were told they were going to be $2000 just themselves, when we were paying $2000 for all the other windows. I don’t know what pricing scheme changed in 5 years, but now all sizes are the same price, and the 3 of them are $2000 now.

We had a tenant ask to be released from his lease, which we concurred to. We had terms associated with that, which I’ll share in a separate post. We were able to get a couple into that house with no loss of rent, which has been appreciated.

We’re under contract with our handyman to do work on a house, so that’s over $5,000 of cost that is waiting to rear its head out there.

PERSONAL

This was a month of spending in activities. I signed up for a 5k in August with “early bird” pricing, our daughter’s acro class had semester tuition due, and the kids’ monthly school tuition was paid as usual. Mr. ODA bought a new battery for his car and installed that. On somewhat of a whim, we replaced our back door, which was over $1100 added to Mr. ODA’s credit card.

Just before Christmas, we took a trip. It was just to Cincinnati, which we regularly do as a day-trip. However, we wanted to accomplish a few things this time around. We went to Top Golf for 90 minutes and lunch, let the baby nap at the AirBnB, went to Zoo Lights, spent the night, and then went skiing the next morning (the kids’ first time!). We already purchased season passes (and equipment) for skiing for 4 of us, and had already purchased the zoo annual membership. Without the cost of those two things, our trip cost $330 for Top Golf, lodging, parking (we stayed in the city), a ski lesson for our 5 year old, and food. Our lodging for 1 night was nearly $200 and was significantly more than we’d typically spend on lodging. However, we’re still in a phase of life where the baby needs the be in a space by himself so he sleeps for a nap and through the night. That means we look for a place with at least 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms, or 3 bedrooms and 1 bathroom (bonus points for master-sized closets or an extra bathroom with no windows for me to black out). We then made 2 day trips since then, and the kids are doing awesome on skis.

NET WORTH

Our cash has decreased, but that was offset to taxable investments because of our Treasury Direct accounts. Even with our extra spending, our credit card balances are comparable to last month’s. The increase in net worth from last month is mostly due to increases in our investment accounts.

This year’s goal is to hit $4 million net worth. Mr. ODA said that to our financial advisor via Instagram, and he didn’t share that publicly because it wasn’t relatable. The point in sharing here is that, well it’s January and people set goals, and to note that even if this goal specifically isn’t attainable to you in the short term, know that we also once had an account balance well below where we’re currently at. Consistent investing in the market (maxing out the 401k, maxing out the Roth IRAs, and establishing regular investing and watching the market) is a large contributing factor to where we are 10 years later. If I take the investment properties out of the equation, we’re still over $2 million net worth. That doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s something you can start working towards today.

New Year Organization

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I had a couple of posts teed up to reflect on last year’s finances and activities, but having some conversations with people made me realize that things that I find basic, aren’t for others. I thought I’d share some things that I do that help me be more successful (calm) in my day. I’m not an organization expert. I’m not the “lazy genius” that gets touted (although, I don’t see people executing what they learn there). I’ve found things over the years that have helped me keep my brain straight. This particular post isn’t financial related, but part 2 will be (but next week will be the monthly financial update, so come back in week 3 this month).

Even though I broke this up, it’s still long. Skim the middle, unless it’s pertinent to you, but the summary ties it up at the end.

I have my own home’s finances, thirteen rental properties, three kids with two in school (and they go different days of the week), investments (and Mr. ODA’s constant moving of money!), and whatever other ad hoc bills show up to manage. I don’t have the ability to think in a quiet and distraction-free environment after 7:30 am. I adapted so that I don’t feel stressed because I’m trying to pay bills while the baby is nipping at my heels and the 3 and 5 year olds are asking me for endless snacks.

Please note that I’m a stay at home mom that manages our rental properties part time and works ad hoc as a substitute. I fully acknowledge that all of this isn’t relatable to someone who is out of the house from 7 am until 5 pm, but I will point out that getting systems in place will make your shorter time at home less stressful.

For a real-time, real-life example, I’m frustrated because my writing of this post has bled into Mr. ODA and two kids being awake, and so I’m trying to finish my thoughts here while Kid #1 tells me about his 14 stuffed animals he brought down from his room, Kid #2 is telling me about her puppy and two babies, and Mr. ODA is asking me to meal plan for my dad’s visit. So here’s why I wake up before anyone else. 🙂

START YOUR DAY RIGHT

I wake up around 6:15 everyday. The kids are in preschool, which starts at 9. When my oldest starts school next year, I’ll start setting an alarm to be awake around 5:15 because I think he needs to be out the door at 6:45.

I know people who even say “I’m not a morning person,” who set an alarm and agree that starting your day without distractions from what you want to achieve makes for a better day.

I start my coffee and make something small for breakfast. I’ve learned that if I don’t eat something, then suddenly it’s 9:30, I’m frustrated by being asked for second breakfast by the kids while I haven’t eaten anything for myself (because if I make any move towards food, suddenly the kids NEED food right then also, even if they just ate). I eat something small, and then around 10 I have … I guess … “second breakfast.” I also learned that if I take time to actually sit and eat a bigger breakfast first thing in the morning, then I’m anxious to get to the other things that I want to do, so it doesn’t help me feel successful to the start of the day.

I empty the dishwasher. If you have young kids, maybe you’re lucky that they don’t see something and then immediately need that thing they wouldn’t have otherwise asked for, but I’d venture to say that’s not the majority. If I’m emptying the dishwasher and laying out their cups, waiting for their matching straw or lid to also get unloaded, they suddenly need milk in that specific cup. Therefore, I unload the dishwasher before anyone is awake and there’s no distraction.

I then make each kid their own water bottle. This was a surprising step to a few people recently. Sometimes this means just filling up the same water bottle as the day before, which is probably sitting on the counter from yesterday. Sometimes their water bottle was washed, so it was just unloaded from the dishwasher. I have specific water bottles that are our “everyday use” water bottles. They’re leakproof. They have a handle. This is what gets carted around when we leave the house. Having a full water cup means that I’m not in the middle of doing something and being asked for water. I refill the water at lunch and dinner, but sometimes there’s a request for more in between.

I set their water bottle and their respective vitamin on the table. When the kids wake up, they go to the table, eat their vitamin, and put their breakfast request in. Sometimes, I’m really on top of things, and I make a breakfast before they wake up (e.g., not cereal). If there’s a plate of food in their “spot,” then they typically just sit at the table and eat it. Most mornings, I’m giving a list of a few options and letting them pick.

I prepare their snack and water for school, if it’s a school day. Again, if I start rummaging through the pantry while they’re awake, they suddenly have preferences and questions. It’s better if I just have it done. As a compromise, I offered my oldest the ability to pick out his own snack every Friday. He wakes up before anyone else, so I have him pick it out before #2 wakes up (who wants everything #1 has or is doing).

If it’s a day that I want to pay bills and/or update our financial tracking spreadsheet, then I also make time for that before anyone wakes up. I can run through our finances in about 10 minutes without distraction. Sometimes, my son wakes up before I get to it, and then for 30 minutes I’m fielding questions about stuffed animals while also trying to keep track of what I’ve already updated.

I know a lot of people lay out their kids clothes the night before. Perhaps this will become part of my routine when my oldest needs to be out the door at 6:45, but at this point, we have plenty of time in the morning to get dressed and ready.

MIDDAY RESETS

I’ve consistently used a child’s nap time to reset the house. Pick up toys that are out (not everything, but most of what hasn’t been touched for a few hours). Clean up any dishes that have been left out. This started with my first’s nap time, and was really because I couldn’t physically sit and relax while I saw toys scattered around the floor or dishes piled on the counter. It has evolved over the years as we’ve had more kids, but the general gist is the same – give it a quick reset, but not a perfect clean up. It’s going to get messed up again before bed time, but it’ll be less items to manage at that time.

Now that my kids are a little older, I task them with it too. Since tidying our house has always been something they’ve seen, they do it well. While I put the baby down for a nap, it indicates that it’s time for them to straighten up. If they put their “morning toys” away, they get to watch a couple of episodes of a show.

I’m a stickler for pieces of toys to stay with each other, so this helps manage that toys don’t have pieces go missing. It also gives everyone a fresh slate to pick out new toys to play with, and it helps no one feel overwhelmed by the state of the room.

I clean up anything left over from lunch, wipe down the table and high chair, and at least get the dishes to the sink, if not the dishwasher. I used to fight anything being left in the sink, but I’ve let go of that.

I then use the baby’s nap time and the bigger kids’ tv time to make any phone calls needed, catch up on any financial things I didn’t get to in the morning, or clean a room.

END YOUR DAY RIGHT

Reset your house.

The two big kids go to bed around 6:30. After they’re in bed, I pick up most toys and clean up after dinner. When I clean, I focus on one room at a time. I start in the living room because rarely am I going to find something in the kitchen that belongs in the living room, but I’ll have items in the living room that need to go to the kitchen.

From the living room, I put any toys away that belong in that room. If a toy is meant to be in the basement, it gets put at the top of the stairs. If there’s a bedroom-related item that got left behind, it gets put at the bottom of the stairs. In both those cases, when someone walks to that area, they’re supposed to bring that to the next floor; in reality, I’m the only one who really does that. If there’s a cup or a plate, it gets put on the kitchen table (because that’s the closest to the living room). The point here is to work in phases. Don’t exert the energy to carry one toy all the way to the basement, to then see that another toy got left under the kitchen table and needs to go to the basement. This makes the task overwhelming.

Once everything is picked up, I move to the kitchen table area. All plates and cups (including whatever I’ve added from the living room), get moved to the kitchen peninsula. The baby’s high chair gets wiped clean, the table and chairs get wiped cleaned, and the dog’s food and water bowls get filled.

In the kitchen, I clear the counters first. Everything goes where it belongs – refrigerated items go to the fridge, any spices left out are put in the cabinet, leftovers are stored away. The goal is to get all the counters cleared off, leaving the dishes in the sink for last. If the stove needs wiped down, I do that once the counters are cleared because the grates need to be placed on the counter. Then I load the dishwasher from the sink and rinse out the sink. I can either rinse the sink after I’m done clearing it, or I can scrub hardened on food in the morning. Put the effort in to do it right so that it’s not a bigger task later.

The baby goes to sleep around 8, so after his bedtime, there’s usually more toys to pick up and a few more dishes that were used.

Then the dishwasher is turned on before bed. Our dishwasher runs for 2 hours. While sometimes it’s overflowing and needs to be run mid-day, it’s more likely that we run it every other night, after we’ve cleaned up the last of our things that need to be loaded from the day.

If I don’t do these things at the end of the night, then they bleed over into my morning chore list. I usually don’t have any “extra” time for my morning chores, so I prefer to focus on my night time to-do list as often as possible.

WEEKLY TASKS

There are things that need to be done, but they’re not done daily. For one, the bathrooms need to be cleaned. I knew someone who said “Sunday is for bathrooms.” She knew that every Sunday, she’d tackle cleaning the bathrooms. I loved that there was a system. I can’t say I’m consistent in that though. I try to remember to vacuum upstairs once a week, but the first floor probably gets vacuumed every other day. One thing that I did that has helped me clean bathrooms more often is that I keep a glass cleaner, all purpose cleaner, and a roll of paper towels upstairs. This means that I’m not thinking, “I should clean this bathroom,” but having to walk downstairs to get supplies and carry them back upstairs.

I change the kids sheets every two weeks. I try to do laundry in order of how it’ll go back on the bed. If I need to wash their blankets and comforter, then I wash the sheets first (since it all doesn’t fit in one load), this way I can get that step done while the blankets are being washed. If I wash the comforter first, then I have to do the entire thing all at once when the sheets are ready (note: my daughter will take any sheets on her bed, but son only wants his Paw Patrol sheets, which is why this system is complicated).

As for laundry, I don’t have any perfect answers, except that piled of laundry do not overflow our hampers. I used to wash our clothes separate from the kids’ clothes because I’d prefer to fold our bigger clothes than theirs, but now it’s a crapshoot. One thing that I have found helpful is that I sort the clean laundry into piles per person. Then I carry the pile into the respective kids’ room, fold it in there, and put it away right then. While my laundry may sit in the dryer for a day or two, this at least gets it folded and put away a lot faster than it used to be. Sometimes I force myself to fold by putting a load of towels in behind the clothes. This means I need to clear the dryer, but it won’t be as daunting because I’ll have the “reward” of “just” towels behind it. Ha!

SUMMARY

The goal here is simple: eliminate stressors that I have control over. I get things done when I don’t have to also manage 74897 toddler questions and a crying baby. I get my house organized before I go to sleep so that I am not overwhelmed by clutter and tasks first thing in the morning.

I’ve seen multiple articles over the last few years that talk about reducing clutter in your house to make yourself feel better. That when your house is cluttered, it makes your brain feel cluttered and exhibits a physically negative reaction. There are distractions everywhere you look that are taking brain power and exhausting you. If you come up with a system that gets kids’ toys out of plain view, that gets your kitchen counter cleared off and the dishes into the dishwasher when dirty, and eliminates piles of papers that will take you an hour to go through and organize, you’ll physically feel more calm and be able to tackle more.

Additionally, just staying on top of little tasks in a “system” you create that works for you and your household makes each day feel more manageable. I do a quick 10-minute reset of the house at nap time. This means that I’m not left with all toys and dishes and mess to deal with at the end of the day when I’m tired. I clean up room-by-room, creating piles of items that need to go to a different room, rather than putting each individual item exactly where it goes as soon as I touch it.

I’ll also point out that even though I use “I” throughout this, it’s a team effort with Mr. ODA. He cooks, cleans up the kitchen, straightens up, etc.