Month: May 2026

May Financial Update

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After not wanting to know the details of March’s expenses because Mr. ODA threw me a surprise party, I was pleasantly surprised to see our spending in April. Now, with that said, while my categorization of expenses cover April 1-30, my stories here go through this date in May. And May has been a doozy.

We changed our insurance carrier as of May 1. We put a concerted effort into getting some routine things out of the way before our insurance changed because we weren’t too confident in the new policy’s coverage. Mr. ODA got a physical. I got an eye exam, which is more expense ($116) due to the contact fitting, and became more expensive when we moved on to acknowledging the astigmatism that we’ve ignored for the last 5 years because it’s so slight. Then that leads to buying contacts ($300). I do need to submit the reimbursement request for the contacts that I paid out of pocket for, so at least some of that should come back.

In mid-April, I started having chest pain. That lead to us wiping out the deductible. Such unfortunate timing. We could have walked away from that policy only needing a couple of hundred applied to the deductible, and then I didn’t take care of myself while sick, so the virus attacked the wall of my heart. Lovely. My first office appointment was at a new clinic, and they said if I paid in full, they’d apply a 10% discount. I’ve had to learn to navigate the world of medical billing (even more in depth than I already had due to poorly executed claims) because of the deductible concept. So the lady’s statement was correct – I still owed about $3000 on my deductible. That’s what she billed me. That’s a normal statement for me to hear. What I hadn’t thought about was – but who will get there first? If her claim wasn’t first in line, then my deductible payment wouldn’t go to her. Narrator: she was not first in line. So now I’ve paid $3k to this company, but I only actually owe her about $900. Meanwhile, the one who was first in line now wants their payment, understandably. I’m trying to hold off on that until after the 20th so that it’s on the next credit card cycle. And through all of this, I also need to fix my log in to my old insurance account to be able to verify that they’ve even accounted for my deductible correctly because I swear I’ve overpaid my deductible the last two years due to too many claims happening at one time, but it’s convoluted and I’ve just given up tracking it both years (I know, this is against everything I tell you to do, but shew, it’s been quite the year or so around here).

On top of that, Mr. ODA works at Lowe’s, and they have a spring holiday period where employees get a 20% discount. So now there’s a ton of Lowe’s transactions on our credit card that’s inflating our spending. While the details of that will be in next month’s update, it is reflected in the net worth calculation I have here since these are current numbers.

RENTALS

We got one house rented as of May 1. That was an anticipated project, and the tenant who left had lived there for 6.5 years. We were gone the first week of April, so we ended up losing the month of income, but the actual work to turn it over took very few hours (at least compared to most of the turnover we do). There’s one more house outstanding to know if she’s renewing, and there’s one house that will turn over at the end of June. That woman moved in over the winter on a 6 month lease. She’s been extremely difficult, and I’m not sad to see her go. For instance, it’s the 22nd, and she still hasn’t paid May’s rent. The good news is that the turnover should go quickly since we did a massive effort to spruce it up at the last turnover.

NET WORTH

The market has recovered a bit, so we’re trending up again instead of stagnant on the net worth. I categorized our spending for April, but since we took a trip, the ‘entertainment’ category is taking over the graph.

I took out the expenses related to our trip to see what was left. Entertainment is still high because we spent $785 on season passes for skiing next year. This also include our daughter’s gymnastics and our gym membership. Just funny that the graph didn’t change because our proportion of spending was the same.

Over the past few months, I’ve worked on increasing our monthly cash flow a bit with rent increases. This isn’t a money-maker, but just trying to stay on top of the routine cost increases (e.g., taxes, insurance) that are coming our way. Once all the increases go into effect, it’ll be another $400 per month. But that’s also contingent on what we get the house that’s turning over rented at. That seems like a lot, but you’d be surprised at what our cost increases are. I usually do a post comparing all those changes in the Fall.

This month our cash went down too because I had to pay the health insurance costs and three houses worth of taxes. I updated our home values now that it’s the spring market; I update these numbers about twice per year.

Year in Review

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MY YEAR

This year was nothing like I expected it to be going into it. I’m not usually one to say it’s been a hard year or look for a “new start” with a new year, but this last year was challenging. For one, raising 3 kids is not for the weak. But I started the year on an HOA board, working as a financial consultant for a few hours, and serving on the city’s Landlord Advisory Board. I eventually handed the Landlord Advisory Board off to Mr. ODA and let go of the financial consultant work, but ended up on 3 HOA boards. Lucky for me, one of the boards has someone who works even harder than me, so that’s requiring very little time of mine. The last board sucked me in because the same management company works with me in my own neighborhood, but that also doesn’t take much time. And with all that, let’s not forget that I took on a part time job.

When I left my career in 2019, I had no intentions of working “long term.” That was the goal from the start – get rental properties to cover my salary, and not work again. Well, it turns out, my brain likes a challenge (and a different one than figuring out why a child is whining for the 687th time today). I’ve held several temporary positions (e.g., Census, horse race meets) that fill some time, make a little money, and then I move on. When I was approached with an offer to work in an office on a set schedule, I cried. That was the furthest thing I wanted. I laid out all my expectations, particularly that my kids come first and I quit working so I could be at all their activities, and they obliged. I’m severely overqualified for the position, but I know I’m helping. I have a strong desire to help people. Ten months in, and I’m still there about 22 hours per week. It doesn’t seem like it’s a lot, but it takes away my flexibility. Having to coordinate that I want to be at a kid’s activity during work hours is frustrating. The work that I’m doing have daily deadlines, so even on the day’s that I’m only supposed to be putting an hour or two in, I still have that hanging over my head.

On top of all the things I was managing, Mr. ODA took the Deferred Resignation Program. He stopped working on April 30th, and we collected a pay check until the beginning of October. It was a blessing that he wasn’t working because we didn’t need to figure out childcare for the kids over the summer while I was working part time. But it’s had its own challenges navigating the change in expectations and daily dynamic that we’re still learning.

FAMILY

We basically let the kids do one activity each, but there’s wiggle room. So during the last school year, our oldest did an after school activity that met once per week (e.g., checkers, kickball) and baseball. I absolutely love going to the ball field. Our middle has held steady at gymnastics for just over a year, which is once per week. Our youngest is gigantic and athletic, but he only just turned 3 so he hasn’t been eligible for any sports yet. His big news of the year is that, after being waitlisted at the start of the school year, he’s now going to preschool twice per week. He started that in December, and it’ll go halfway through May.

We tried our hand at camping with the kids and dog, and it went very well. We went on a cruise and visited western KY, WV, NY twice, and OH. We took the kids skiing multiple times, and they did really well.

FINANCIALS

Mr. ODA had a 6 figure job with the government. That pay check, as I mentioned, covered through the end of September. I worked as a consultant for a school startup, worked part time nearly all of the year, and subbed a few times at the kid’s old preschool; these things brought in over $22k.

We did quite a few things to bring in extra income throughout the year too. I consigned some of kids things and brought in about $800 to offset Christmas. The credit card rewards we took in was over $2k. Mr. ODA does ‘shops’ (secret shopper), which brought in just under $1500. Some of that payment accounted for food reimbursement, but we see it as a way to eat at a restaurant as a family of 5 without it being ridiculously expensive. Then other random reimbursements from companies that we were owed are added in, and our “additional income” (i.e., income that I did not project at the beginning of the year) totaled over $43k. Each year, it ends up being around this number that we bring in outside of wages and rental income.

SUMMARY

This is really just a way to account for the crazy that was 2025. We accomplished a lot. It came at a cost of family dynamic and happiness. But now that we’re a few months into 2026, I see a light at the end of the tunnel. We have some changes that we’re making, and I am hopeful that I’ll have my flexibility back, and the ability to do things that brought me joy back in 2024.

Insurance Decisions

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Last year, Mr. ODA took the deferred resignation program offer. As part of this offer, we kept our insurance through the end of September as normal because his pay check continued as normal. After the separation, we kept our policy for 30 days and then could opt to keep the insurance policy for 18 months. Opting in meant that we had to pay 100% of the cost of the policy, which is $1,906 per month.

Around the time that this decision needed to be made, an opportunity came up in my office to join their insurance policy. With the coverage offered by my employer, it was still going to cost us over $1700 per month. There were several red flags from the insurance agent, and there was gap coverage, which would have required me to submit claim information to a 3rd party to get further coverage. As someone who has to fight nearly every EOB that comes through my mail, I really didn’t want to take on having to also submit it and manage that request. In the end, we decided it wasn’t worth the risk of losing the “enemy we know,” nor that I would eventually quit this job and we would lose that insurance.

Around the beginning of the year, Mr. ODA discovered that insurance premiums are only considered “pre tax” if they’re through an employer. So since we are paying our own insurance, it doesn’t count. That started a quest for Mr. ODA to find a part-time job that he could get insurance.

He interviewed several times with Lowe’s. There were several bumps in the road over the last couple of months, but he’s ended up with a cashier position near our house. He needs to work at least 13 hours a pay period to qualify for their insurance. Their insurance is not great. This is a gamble.

Here are the questions I asked myself during the process.

  1. Are our current doctors in network? The website has a way for me to search by doctor names and practice names. We have moved a lot in our life. I had a few doctors I saw in Fairfax, VA. Then we moved to Richmond, VA, and I had a few other doctors I liked. Actually, when we decided to move to central KY, one of the biggest “against” items were the doctors. I loved my ob-gyn. I loved the kids’ pediatrician. I loved that there was a kid urgent care near our house, which we used when our oldest split his forehead open. We moved just outside Lexington for a few years, and I settled into a routine there. Less than 2 years later, we moved into Lexington, and I needed to start over with the doctors. It took me some time to get into a routine, but I now have myself and all the kids on routine check up schedules with a primary care, dentist, and eye doctor. So while I COULD get new doctors, it just isn’t something I’m all that interested in figuring out. At this time, it appears all our current doctors, except our eye doctor, is in network.
  2. How much is it going to cost? Currently, we have a high deductible plan. Even with that statement, you’ll be surprised to find out the deductible is only $3,800. We haven’t hit that yet this year though. When the kids go to the doctor, it’s about $81 until we meet the deductible and it drops to about $5. Going forward, this policy has a $20 copay for all regular visits and no deductible. However, urgent care is a $100 copayment, and there is $0 covered for an ER visit. That’s scary. I use the kid’s urgent care pretty frequently. I also have used the urgent care by my house (although it’s terrible) more often than I use my doctor’s office. Having to gauge whether something can wait until tomorrow’s office hours or if it’s worth $100 copay is going to be a stressor I wish wasn’t there. I’m also expecting that everything will shake itself out.
  3. What is the coverage like? There are a few key things I’m looking at in the summary of benefits. There are the simple ones like, “is it a copayment or coinsurance” and “is there a deductible?” Then there are more complicated ones like, “are routine dental visits covered,” and “are diagnostic lab work and imaging included?” Both of those are no. That’s concerning. However, there is supplementary insurance options that will get us vision, dental, and accident coverage (e.g., ER payment). This is less than ideal, as it was one of the reasons that I didn’t want my employer’s insurance, but I will figure out the process to submit claims for extra payment. If I’m not working, I’ll have better time to manage that.

The cost is a glaring win on this less-than-stellar policy. For $186 per pay check (every other week), we get this insurance. That’s about $372 per month, give or take those extra pay checks that shake out. Essentially, that’s $4,800 per year. Currently, our premium is $22,872 per year, plus a $3,800 deductible that has to be met. The difference is glaring. So I’m hopeful that our sick visits being a $20 copay and the occasional need for urgent care at $100 per visit will still not exceed the cost of the policy we currently have. Plus, the policy we currently have is painful to manage, so how bad can another option really be?