Stories

“Rich”

onedollarallowanceLeave a comment

There’s a lot of chatter online these days about a “90s summer.” I’ve also been fed some reels about what “rich” looks like, and it’s not about money or flashing the perception of money. Mr. ODA and I are working very few hours these days. My job is because I’m a “helper” in life, and I know this group needs my help for a bit longer (I also tried to quit and they said no). Mr. ODA’s job is to qualify for health insurance so we save about $1500 per month in direct expenses for health insurance.

When I first started working, my goal was to climb the ladder. I wanted to be the youngest CFO in my Federal agency. Then a 34 year old woman got the job and crushed my dreams a bit, but I was still a good amount younger than her, so I just needed her to move on in the next few years. Then I went to DC. I left the house between 5:30 am and 6 am, and I got home between 4:30 and 5:30. I kept looking around thinking, “when would I see my kids if I had them?” In fact, we were denied adopting a dog because we both had full time jobs. That still fascinates me. During my fight to climb the ladder in DC, I realized that wasn’t what I wanted. I wanted to live a few miles from work where I could have more free time. I wanted to own a little piece of the pie, so to speak (my job in DC was very high level, but I loved working with the State level where I could actually see the road and bridge projects I approved in progress). But even as I made that transition, it didn’t feel right. I wanted to be home with the kid I was about to spend $30k to have. I didn’t want to put all that money into making a baby for him to sit in daycare for a whole work day and commute time (I get it – it works for people, but not for me).

FIRE. Financial independence, retire early.

While our path didn’t go as we expected as we learned more, and we both worked longer than we intended, the goal was always the same – be home with our family while they’re little. And that’s what we have. Even when I took this new job, I said my kids come first. I didn’t sacrifice in all those ways before kids, give myself freedom, and then take on a full time job. Most people struggle to understand that. Even the agents who I’m paying $600k each year can’t understand when they hear I don’t “need” to work.

So that’s my rich. I’m at the kids’ school all the time. I’m at nearly every drop off and pick up. Heck, I discharged from the hospital AMA so that I could get to a baseball game in May. I will be there. I will be cheering them on. I will lay in bed at bed time, read them books, and then ask them about their day while they tell me the most obscure things…but it’s because they just want to fill that time where they get to talk to me without a sibling interrupting.

I’m not driving a fancy car. I’m not living in a 7000 sf house just because I can. We’re not going out for drinks and sitting at restaurants multiple times per week. We’re not going to the movies every month (umm, actually, or ever, unless it’s the $2 summer flicks series). I’m making my money work for me, so that I can focus on pouring into my kids and enjoying the time of their lives that they actually want to be around me all the time.

Disclaimer: I am not personally making my money do anything. That’s all Mr. ODA. I’m just the bookkeeper, collecting rent and tracking what’s happening and trusting he has the answers on how to move the money around.

Fall Creek Falls

onedollarallowanceLeave a comment

We took a trip in June to Fall Creek Falls in TN. We had looked into it a couple of years ago, but it was hard to find things to do and places to stay. This year, less people were planning to go, we have a big trip as a family planned later this year, and so we went for it. It was a nice relaxing trip.

The grandparents graciously pay for the lodging when we do family trips. We had a nice big cabin for 12 of us. We purchased food to eat at the cabin, which was really the only option because there was hardly anything for 25 miles. The first day, we went hiking and swimming in waterfalls around the park. It was supposed to rain all day, but we made it out only getting rained on towards the end of the last hike for a little bit. The next day, we hung out for the morning, went to rent some canoes ($10 for one hour), found a swimming hole, and then some of us went hiking a bit more.

I usually do trip summaries when we get back so we remember what we did and share how much we spent. In this case, we spent about $40 on gas, about $20 on meals during our travel, and about $50 on groceries. With that, it’s hard to accurately portray what we spent because it’s not the full picture since we didn’t pay for lodging. But I’m making it down that we went on a trip for 3 nights that was nice and relaxing!

Camping Trip

onedollarallowanceLeave a comment

We have a summer full of trips planned, and stop 1 was camping. We took the kids camping in the fall, and they didn’t stop talking about it for weeks. It was a purposefully quick trip to be able to gauge how it went. We got there in the evening, just before dark. In the morning, we packed everything up and then went for a hike. The consensus was that we needed two nights because they wanted more time to enjoy the camp site.

We planned a two night trip to Zilpo Campground in the Daniel Boone National Forest in Kentucky. The reservation for the campground cost us $70.62. We drove there, but that gas usage was nominal. We put a lot of time and effort into planning the meals for that duration, so that cost us about $20.

We stayed in Loop H, which is a place we had stayed before. I love how tree covered the entire loop is. Our site was H17. There was a path down to the water, and the kids enjoyed swimming there. There’s a beach area at the campground, where we spent a few hours. We did a hike off Deer Loop. And we roasted lots of marshmallows!

We planned the trip a few weeks ago, so we obviously didn’t know how the weather would turn out. It rained for a bit on the last morning, but hardly any of our things got wet thanks to the tree cover. The unfortunate part was that a humid wave came into town just for the time that we were camping. The week before or after, and we would have had a nice high 70s day with low 60s nights. Instead, we had highs in the 90s and lows barely breaking below 80.

A simple post for a simple trip. 🙂 Not to mention, we got away from home for 2 nights and spent less than $100!

$1 million 401k before age 40!

onedollarallowanceLeave a comment

Mr. ODA’s retirement account surpassed $1 million last month!

Mr. ODA and I worked for the federal government. Our retirement account is called the Thrift Savings Plan, but it’s essentially a 401k, and includes a 5% salary match on contributions. My parents were adamant that I put at least the amount in to get the full match, and to increase my contributions as I received raises. Mr. ODA entered into my life and said I was to max it out no matter what, and so I did. The point here being he’s maxed it out from the beginning. I worked for about 11.5 years, and he worked for about 16 years. My last contribution was May 2019, and his last contribution was October 2025.

I share this background to make the point about compound growth. The max I could have contributed over my working time was about $190k. The max Mr. ODA could contribute was about $305,000. So that means that based on $305,000 of his own money, he now has a valuation of over $1 million.

Year in Review

mrsonedollarallowanceLeave a comment

MY YEAR

This year was nothing like I expected it to be going into it. I’m not usually one to say it’s been a hard year or look for a “new start” with a new year, but this last year was challenging. For one, raising 3 kids is not for the weak. But I started the year on an HOA board, working as a financial consultant for a few hours, and serving on the city’s Landlord Advisory Board. I eventually handed the Landlord Advisory Board off to Mr. ODA and let go of the financial consultant work, but ended up on 3 HOA boards. Lucky for me, one of the boards has someone who works even harder than me, so that’s requiring very little time of mine. The last board sucked me in because the same management company works with me in my own neighborhood, but that also doesn’t take much time. And with all that, let’s not forget that I took on a part time job.

When I left my career in 2019, I had no intentions of working “long term.” That was the goal from the start – get rental properties to cover my salary, and not work again. Well, it turns out, my brain likes a challenge (and a different one than figuring out why a child is whining for the 687th time today). I’ve held several temporary positions (e.g., Census, horse race meets) that fill some time, make a little money, and then I move on. When I was approached with an offer to work in an office on a set schedule, I cried. That was the furthest thing I wanted. I laid out all my expectations, particularly that my kids come first and I quit working so I could be at all their activities, and they obliged. I’m severely overqualified for the position, but I know I’m helping. I have a strong desire to help people. Ten months in, and I’m still there about 22 hours per week. It doesn’t seem like it’s a lot, but it takes away my flexibility. Having to coordinate that I want to be at a kid’s activity during work hours is frustrating. The work that I’m doing have daily deadlines, so even on the day’s that I’m only supposed to be putting an hour or two in, I still have that hanging over my head.

On top of all the things I was managing, Mr. ODA took the Deferred Resignation Program. He stopped working on April 30th, and we collected a pay check until the beginning of October. It was a blessing that he wasn’t working because we didn’t need to figure out childcare for the kids over the summer while I was working part time. But it’s had its own challenges navigating the change in expectations and daily dynamic that we’re still learning.

FAMILY

We basically let the kids do one activity each, but there’s wiggle room. So during the last school year, our oldest did an after school activity that met once per week (e.g., checkers, kickball) and baseball. I absolutely love going to the ball field. Our middle has held steady at gymnastics for just over a year, which is once per week. Our youngest is gigantic and athletic, but he only just turned 3 so he hasn’t been eligible for any sports yet. His big news of the year is that, after being waitlisted at the start of the school year, he’s now going to preschool twice per week. He started that in December, and it’ll go halfway through May.

We tried our hand at camping with the kids and dog, and it went very well. We went on a cruise and visited western KY, WV, NY twice, and OH. We took the kids skiing multiple times, and they did really well.

FINANCIALS

Mr. ODA had a 6 figure job with the government. That pay check, as I mentioned, covered through the end of September. I worked as a consultant for a school startup, worked part time nearly all of the year, and subbed a few times at the kid’s old preschool; these things brought in over $22k.

We did quite a few things to bring in extra income throughout the year too. I consigned some of kids things and brought in about $800 to offset Christmas. The credit card rewards we took in was over $2k. Mr. ODA does ‘shops’ (secret shopper), which brought in just under $1500. Some of that payment accounted for food reimbursement, but we see it as a way to eat at a restaurant as a family of 5 without it being ridiculously expensive. Then other random reimbursements from companies that we were owed are added in, and our “additional income” (i.e., income that I did not project at the beginning of the year) totaled over $43k. Each year, it ends up being around this number that we bring in outside of wages and rental income.

SUMMARY

This is really just a way to account for the crazy that was 2025. We accomplished a lot. It came at a cost of family dynamic and happiness. But now that we’re a few months into 2026, I see a light at the end of the tunnel. We have some changes that we’re making, and I am hopeful that I’ll have my flexibility back, and the ability to do things that brought me joy back in 2024.

Insurance Decisions

mrsonedollarallowanceLeave a comment

Last year, Mr. ODA took the deferred resignation program offer. As part of this offer, we kept our insurance through the end of September as normal because his pay check continued as normal. After the separation, we kept our policy for 30 days and then could opt to keep the insurance policy for 18 months. Opting in meant that we had to pay 100% of the cost of the policy, which is $1,906 per month.

Around the time that this decision needed to be made, an opportunity came up in my office to join their insurance policy. With the coverage offered by my employer, it was still going to cost us over $1700 per month. There were several red flags from the insurance agent, and there was gap coverage, which would have required me to submit claim information to a 3rd party to get further coverage. As someone who has to fight nearly every EOB that comes through my mail, I really didn’t want to take on having to also submit it and manage that request. In the end, we decided it wasn’t worth the risk of losing the “enemy we know,” nor that I would eventually quit this job and we would lose that insurance.

Around the beginning of the year, Mr. ODA discovered that insurance premiums are only considered “pre tax” if they’re through an employer. So since we are paying our own insurance, it doesn’t count. That started a quest for Mr. ODA to find a part-time job that he could get insurance.

He interviewed several times with Lowe’s. There were several bumps in the road over the last couple of months, but he’s ended up with a cashier position near our house. He needs to work at least 13 hours a pay period to qualify for their insurance. Their insurance is not great. This is a gamble.

Here are the questions I asked myself during the process.

  1. Are our current doctors in network? The website has a way for me to search by doctor names and practice names. We have moved a lot in our life. I had a few doctors I saw in Fairfax, VA. Then we moved to Richmond, VA, and I had a few other doctors I liked. Actually, when we decided to move to central KY, one of the biggest “against” items were the doctors. I loved my ob-gyn. I loved the kids’ pediatrician. I loved that there was a kid urgent care near our house, which we used when our oldest split his forehead open. We moved just outside Lexington for a few years, and I settled into a routine there. Less than 2 years later, we moved into Lexington, and I needed to start over with the doctors. It took me some time to get into a routine, but I now have myself and all the kids on routine check up schedules with a primary care, dentist, and eye doctor. So while I COULD get new doctors, it just isn’t something I’m all that interested in figuring out. At this time, it appears all our current doctors, except our eye doctor, is in network.
  2. How much is it going to cost? Currently, we have a high deductible plan. Even with that statement, you’ll be surprised to find out the deductible is only $3,800. We haven’t hit that yet this year though. When the kids go to the doctor, it’s about $81 until we meet the deductible and it drops to about $5. Going forward, this policy has a $20 copay for all regular visits and no deductible. However, urgent care is a $100 copayment, and there is $0 covered for an ER visit. That’s scary. I use the kid’s urgent care pretty frequently. I also have used the urgent care by my house (although it’s terrible) more often than I use my doctor’s office. Having to gauge whether something can wait until tomorrow’s office hours or if it’s worth $100 copay is going to be a stressor I wish wasn’t there. I’m also expecting that everything will shake itself out.
  3. What is the coverage like? There are a few key things I’m looking at in the summary of benefits. There are the simple ones like, “is it a copayment or coinsurance” and “is there a deductible?” Then there are more complicated ones like, “are routine dental visits covered,” and “are diagnostic lab work and imaging included?” Both of those are no. That’s concerning. However, there is supplementary insurance options that will get us vision, dental, and accident coverage (e.g., ER payment). This is less than ideal, as it was one of the reasons that I didn’t want my employer’s insurance, but I will figure out the process to submit claims for extra payment. If I’m not working, I’ll have better time to manage that.

The cost is a glaring win on this less-than-stellar policy. For $186 per pay check (every other week), we get this insurance. That’s about $372 per month, give or take those extra pay checks that shake out. Essentially, that’s $4,800 per year. Currently, our premium is $22,872 per year, plus a $3,800 deductible that has to be met. The difference is glaring. So I’m hopeful that our sick visits being a $20 copay and the occasional need for urgent care at $100 per visit will still not exceed the cost of the policy we currently have. Plus, the policy we currently have is painful to manage, so how bad can another option really be?

2025 Rental Properties & Net

mrsonedollarallowanceLeave a comment

As we finished our taxes, I thought it would be fun to see the net of each property. The numbers are all over the place.

These numbers are the result of income less costs. This is not actual cash flow. It includes depreciation of assets, depreciation of the house, and all the actual costs that are occurring throughout the year. Costs include: property management, legal fees (e.g., LLC filing), mileage, maintenance, repairs, utilities, taxes, and insurance. For those properties that have a mortgage, the annual interest on the mortgage is also included.

The third line with a loss is because the tenant has been there since we purchased the house. Our taxes and insurance have risen drastically, but I haven’t had the heart to increase their rent drastically. The 2nd line above them is basically carrying them, as it’s the same floor plan and more accurately reflects our costs. It helps that these are newer houses, so their costs for maintenance and repairs are much lower than our others.

We had 3 houses to turnover for the year, so that equates to more spending than typical on a house. Two of our houses have HOAs, so that increases our cost more on those two. Most of our expenses (outside of appliance replacement) are related to HVAC repairs and tree/gutter clean up.

The last house is such a large loss because we had to put work into the house to get it ready for renting. We purchased it in October, but we only took in one month worth of rent, so the offset wasn’t great timing.

It’s also helpful to know that while this is our 2025 net on the houses, the positive may be carrying a larger cost and lower net from previous years, or it’s adding to the potential costs in the future.

2025 Extra Income

mrsonedollarallowanceLeave a comment

It’s been a while since I’ve talked about the credit cards we have and how we manage using them. I seem to be caught in multiple conversations around me lately about how people feel credit cards are bad, so they use debit cards. I understand that some people have a bad history where they weren’t disciplined enough, but don’t you think after several years, you’re older and wiser and could likely teach yourself discipline? My last post was about how you could make $500 in a year just by putting an expense on a credit card and paying it off each month if you have 2% cash back. So let’s dive in to what we made in 2025. There is one caveat: we have a lot of credit cards and we put a lot of effort into using the categories; I fully understand this is more effort than nearly anyone else is willing to put in. But hopefully you can take just one thing away from this teaching and information.

You need to find your why. Your why is your driving factor on everything. Put things in perspective of “if I hadn’t spent $10 on that coffee, what could that have gone towards to provide me with longer term satisfaction?” I admit that I’ll go to Starbucks for a drink, but I buy about 5 of those $6 drinks (I get a very basic thing) in a year.

INTEREST EARNED: $1,191.42

The easiest way to make your money work for you is through interest on a bank balance. Currently, savings rates are hovering around 3.25%. I’ll just jump right into it: compound interest. Even if you have $500 extra, put this money in a savings account. At this interest rate, you’re earning $16 in a year, but that’s $16 more than you had at the beginning of the year. The mentality that $16 isn’t “worth it” is the type of thought process you need to move away from. If that balance was $5000 instead of $500, then that’s $162 in passive income.

TREASURY DIRECT: $2,098.14

This is more advanced interest income. You can create an account here and invest your money in short term securities (think CD type things at a bank). The rate is currently about 6.25%. You’re tying your money up for a period of time (4 weeks through 30 years), and the rate is tied to the term of investment, but we are actively managing our investments in 4-8 weeks segments, earning about $50 at a time.

CREDIT CARD REWARDS: $1,947.75

We have several credit cards. Some are a flat percentage for all purchases, and some have categories that earn an additional percentage back. The amount that I have here is only related to what we cashed out. More was earned, but we keep some in our Chase account balance so that we can get a bonus if we book travel through their portal.

If you don’t want to manage categories, go for the Citi Double Cash card. It gives you 1% on a purchase and 1% on a payment. The key here is that you can’t claim a statement credit because that doesn’t count as a payment, meaning you don’t get your 1% on that amount.

Without giving too much away on the cards we have, here’s a snapshot that I keep in my phone to remind myself what card to use for each purchase. The 5% category there changes quarterly. Usually, if I can’t use my Citi card, then I’m checking this graphic to see what the next best percent back for “everyday purchases” would be.

SUMMARY

This is “passive” income we’ve made. We had other avenues that brought in other income, but this is where we basically just spent money or kept money in certain accounts and brought in an extra $5,237.31. That’s a big number, and I’m sure that type of money can make a difference in your life or pay for a trip you want to go on.

0% Interest

mrsonedollarallowanceLeave a comment

We opened a new credit card to purchase windows for our house. When we bought our house, there were 3 windows that had the gas seal broken and were dirty looking (not cloudy like I’d think would happen). Three sashes were really bad. One is on the side of the house in our bedroom, so we never see it. The other is the window over the garage, so front and center. We just keep the black curtain drawn so hopefully you can’t notice it, but it’s definitely noticeable if you look for it. Over the past 3 years, more windows have started to go. Some are getting to the point of being that bad, and some just have a holographic look to it that you can catch at certain angles. We also have a couple of windows that are freezing if you get near them. In my daughter’s room, I line the bottom of the curtains with stuffed animals to keep some of the cold out and let the animals absorb the cold.

Well, it was time to open a credit card then.

All of these companies are happy to open a line of credit for you. You can make payments on your windows (or really anything) for 5, 7, 10 years. Well, if you have good credit and don’t open credit cards often, you can look into giving yourself an interest free loan for 12-18 months.

We look for a credit card that offers at least 12 months of 0% interest and a reward of some sort. Usually the reward is related to an amount of cash back if you spend a certain amount in a certain period (e.g., $300 cash back if you spend $5,000 in the first 3 months).

We’ve done this several times. We opened a credit card to pay for IVF to have our first child (~$30k). We opened a credit card for the new carpet we put in our current house (~$10k). Now we opened a new one for windows ($11k). We pay about $500 (at least the minimum monthly payment owed) per month and always by the due date. If you are late on a payment, you forfeit the free interest and may even owe the interest that would have been owed on previous payments. Then as the end date of the 0% interest gets closer, we make a plan on where money will be transferred from savings to pay it before that date.

That’s one of the keys. We’re not taking this because we don’t have the money to pay it right now. We’re opening a credit card to allow our money to earn interest in a savings account of some sort for all that time. So instead of spending that money and losing that income, we delay the payment as long as possible to keep our money working for us. If you need something and don’t have the money to pay it right now, but you think you’ll be able to make payments on it as you earn income, then make that the variable. Don’t open a credit card if you haven’t ever and don’t plan to have that amount of money within the term. We also don’t open a new credit card while we’re paying on the previously opened credit card. In this instance, we paid off the balance of the carpet this past October. While it would have been nice to delay opening a new card a bit longer, the windows are really in rough shape, so we only had 2.5 months without a large credit balance to think about.

Post Employment Health Insurance

mrsonedollarallowanceLeave a comment

We have been financially secure for Mr. ODA to quit working for years. In fact, the plan was that after he met the requirements for his paternity leave taken (which was essentially work the number of hours you took as leave), he would quit. That goal was met back in early 2023. The hold up for him quitting was always health insurance. Him working wasn’t a huge detriment to our life and things we wanted to do, and he was getting most of his health insurance cost covered by his employer.

Well, at the beginning of 2025, the deferred resignation program was introduced. While the first round was very questionable, our life was greatly affected by his employment and the government over the next few weeks, so it was a no-brainer to take the program during the second round. His last day of work was at the end of April, but he was considered employed and paid through September 30th.

As part of his separation, his health insurance was covered for about another month. He had the option to extend his current insurance for another 18 months after that, and that he’d be responsible for paying the full premium. At the time, it was about $1700, and the 2026 premium is $1900 per month.

MRS. ODA’S INSURANCE OPTION

Meanwhile (just coincidental timing), my current employer was investigating a new insurance policy for their employees across 4 offices. They were originating their insurance through the Ohio office. It was a really expensive policy for them. For the 5 people who were taking advantage of that insurance policy, they could have covered 23 employees on this new policy. We learned that Ohio is one of the most expensive states to originate insurance out of it, so we moved the policy to Kentucky.

Anyway, through that process, the insurance sales person was completely incapable of answering basic insurance type questions. Mr. ODA asked for the brochure of benefits. He said, “I emailed you the summary of benefits.” Mr. ODA pointed out that the summary of benefits was a summary of a much larger document, and we wanted those details. He said that didn’t exist. Mr. ODA called the actual insurance company, and that lady laughed and said they definitely have that.

The policy also required a gap coverage policy. The information given to me did not make me feel like it was going to be a smooth process. It sounded like the doctor’s office would submit the claim to my main insurance company. Once it was processed, I’d have to take my bill and EOB and submit it to the gap coverage company for payment. So I’d have to manage the paperwork processing and the payments between everyone.

Their quote for the family policy was about $1750. I told Mr. ODA that it wasn’t worth all that extra effort and the concern that this insurance policy would even work right (because this sales person was not able to answer questions or quell concerns), just to save about $150.

FINAL DECISION

So in the end, we decided to keep the enemy we know. All of our doctors are now solidly in place since we’ve been in Lexington for 3.5 years. I didn’t want to risk needing to switch to a different doctors office because of eligibility and coverage. I didn’t want to risk the coverage being a fight even more than my current policy creates. But mostly, in case something did end up going awry with this new policy option, we couldn’t get our old policy back. So while adding $1900 to our monthly expenses while losing Mr. ODA’s income isn’t the most ideal situation, this is where we’re at in life.