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Rental Cost Changes

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In November 2023, I posted about rental changes that had occurred over the previous year. I wanted to update that analysis a few months ago, but I didn’t have all the KY data. I recently shared that my rent increases aren’t covering my cost increases, and my portfolio’s cash projections are lower now than when we first purchased all the houses. Here’s more of a breakdown of those changes per house.

ESCROW

Escrow is an account that your mortgage company holds money to pay your insurance and taxes on your behalf. I have little faith in their management, as I’ve had to follow up on balances in the account and payments made incorrectly.

I created this table to show the differences between escrow payments over the two years. I kept the houses that don’t have an escrow because it can be compared to a future table in this post. There is no House5 in this table because we sold it several years ago (houses didn’t get renumbered because House5 still exists in terms of tax documentation).

INSURANCE

We had 3 insurance claims last year, and a big one the year before. It turns out, our portfolio is looked at as a whole, so 4 claims in a 12 month period doesn’t look good, especially when one of those was 6 digits and one was 5 digits. None of it was egregious, and they were each necessary. We were just a victim of poor timing (and for some reason, the 12 years prior to that with 0 claims of any kind mean absolutely nothing). While our own history is to blame in some aspects, insurance costs as a whole are increasing quickly over the few years. Here’s Google’s AI response:

And with that between payments made in 2023 and payments made in 2024, insurance is costing us almost $2,000 more for the year. I also just made my first 2025 payment, which increased that one house by $343. The total increase from 2022 and 2024 is over $3,000.

From the initiation of insurance on each house (so, when we first bought the house, which were mostly between 2015/2016) to today, we’re paying over 43% more in total for insurance.

TAXES

The table below shows the change between 2023 and 2024 for our tax payments. Last year, many jurisdictions that hadn’t captured the assessment changes since the pandemic made up for it last year, when we saw about a $3,500 increase for the year. This year, our increase was over $2,000. Fifty-five hundred over two years is nearly $230 per month, spread over 13 rental properties is $17 each. So for those that I didn’t increase rent last year, they’re not capturing that cost increase for our portfolio.

RENT INCREASES

So far this year, I’ve missed two opportunities to increase rent. I had planned on increasing one house by $25 to keep up with inflation costs, but it didn’t register that their notice had to be given by 1/1 (every one else is by the end of the month). The second is above market at this time, which was by design since they’re not easy to work with (tried to phase them out, but they accepted the rent increase). We last raised their rent in September 2022, so it’s been two years. But I couldn’t bring myself to do it. Next year we’ll increase them by $50 per month.

My plan is to increase the rent for 5 of our other houses. Four of these houses are planned to be $50 per month of an increase, and one is planned to be $75. Our management is generally to increase rent by $50 every two years if you’re a long term renter. There have been a few that we didn’t increase for a while, and the carrying costs have drastically increased, so we’re behind now.

SUMMARY

For our cost increases between taxes and insurance, we have over $4,000 that was paid out last year (and it’s really more than that in cases where the house has escrow, so our escrow was increased more drastically that the specific amount of change in bills).

We had 3 houses turnover from long term tenants, so we were able to increase the rent to market value. I prioritize keeping long term tenants, so I don’t always do rent increases. That means that sometimes the rent is stuck below market value, but I’d rather keep a good tenant than push them out with large annual rent increases.

By bringing those houses up to market rent, I’ve made up a good amount of our deficit. Now remember, these rent increases are catching up on multiple years of drastic increases. So even though it seems we’ve brought in more, we’re both making up for previous years that didn’t have such large rent increases and paying for more large scale improvements to these houses, in addition to larger contractor costs.

January Financial Update

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We’ve done a good job at enjoying time together this past month. We haven’t had a lot of expenses pop up, which was a nice reprieve. However, the market is much lower at this time this month than it was last month, so our net worth actually decreased. I keep focusing on the long term picture though, and our net worth is much higher than a year ago.

RENTALS

We have 13 rental properties. They were mostly purchased in 2016-2019, with one purchased in 2022. Most of them have sustained very little tenant turnover.

I had 4 houses not pay their full rent on time this month. As of this post, only 1 is still outstanding. They’ve had car troubles and have communicated regularly with me. While I’d prefer to see at least something paid towards rent by now, they’ve been with us for 8 years, and I know they’ll eventually be whole. They never take more than the month to get rent fully paid. Of the other 3 that were late, I only charged one a late fee. The others aren’t usual offenders and communicate up front, but this one has been more difficult to get rent paid from the time we purchased the house.

While looking back at last year’s January post, I must note that this past year has been fairly easy on the rental front. We’ve had a lot of frustrations and things to manage, but it hasn’t been as time consuming in the “people management” side of things. We had a few issues with a tenant that first moved in last winter, but they’ve been quiet since. We had 4 houses turnover tenants in 2024, with fairly little loss of rent.

PERSONAL

We have been battling snow for almost two weeks now, which is very unusual in Central KY. We’ve already taken the kids skiing twice this year. Even the baby got on skis! He’s 2, so I guess he isn’t such a baby anymore, but that’s the earliest we’ve put a kid on skis. He’ll slide down the mountain, but he doesn’t stand on the skis; he’s just squatting the whole way.

NET WORTH

Last year at this time, I was sharing that our goal was to reach $4 million. We were at $3.869 million.

Our net worth is about $66k less than last month. I don’t always update the value of our assets, so that’s a fairly static number. Everyone few months, I’ll check on the ‘zestimates’ though. Typically, we expect to see the total decrease in the winter months because there are less sales and less activity to raise the sale prices like you see in the Spring months. On top of that, all of our investment accounts (except one that increased by $22) decreased a bit.

We have a 0% interest credit card that has a balance over $12k on it. We also added a car payment, which we haven’t had since about 2015. Tesla was offering a 0% interest loan, so that monthly payment isn’t going away for nearly 5 years. Overall, our credit cards balances total more than $3k less than last month’s, which makes me happy to see.

December Financial Update

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We bought an electric vehicle. Honestly, I didn’t see this coming. Since our trip in July, Mr. ODA has been reading about them. He decided he wanted a Tesla for numerous reasons. We test drove one in mid-November, and we picked up our new car order by the end of that week. Tesla was offering 0% financing, if we put $3,999 down. The purchasing process was as easy as buying something off Amazon. I’m still in awe over it. We’ve now added a $589 payment into our monthly finances, but it was worth it for the trade off of interest earned by keeping the balance in our savings account. As part of this purchase, we sold Mr. ODA’s vehicle. It was 15 years old and in relatively great condition. We got much more out of that than we expected, and that check helped cover a gap I had in our checking account (yes, I could have transferred from savings).

I’ve continued to monitor the status of our insurance woes. Luckily everything is complete. I was able to get the new policy executed (after about a weeks worth of work) on the house with the roof that was too old, which meant I had to manage the cash flow between us and a partner. I had to answer a couple more questions on executing a new policy, and we received all the reimbursements from the old policy that was cancelled. I’m happy that’s behind us now.

We have a tenant who hasn’t paid anything towards December rent. Honestly, it’s expected each year. But they seem like good people, and they always work really hard to get things situated, so I’m always lenient with them.

NET WORTH

Well, we bought a new car, paid off a credit card with a $6,500 balance since the 0% interest expired, and added a hot tub purchase to a different credit card, so there was some big swings in our net worth this month. With the hot tub added, our credit card balance went up $6k. Our cash only went down about $600, which was interesting to see. Our liabilities increased with the car purchase, but with our investments, our net worth increased by over $30k.

September Financial Update

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We have two kids in school now, and my days are chaotic to say the least. I have not figured out my organization of all the “required” activities I have. I’ve written our schedule out several times over the last few weeks. It seems so easy because nothing overlaps, but my days are full of stress. I have 3 little humans’ emotions to manage on top of the organization of activities. Everyone’s tired because this is a change from the summer process. I keep hoping that “next week” will be better, but better isn’t coming. So, I missed last week’s post. I am taking several days to write this post. We’ll see how it goes.

Kid1 went to kindergarten this year, and Kid2 moved up to Pre-K. She went to school two days per week last year, which was $175 per month. Now she goes 5 days per week, which is $375. Since Kid1 is in public school now, I saved $175 per month, right? Mr. ODA is going to hate that line. 🙂

We got hit hard with charges this credit card cycle. I purposely held an insurance payment until our main credit card’s statement started over so that I could feel like it was a less expensive month. I paid that the day $1500+ that the new statement started. Unfortunately, the remaining payment to the electrician also came due on that day, and that was $1,766 hitting the card at the same time. Mr. ODA went on a work trip, which gets reimbursed, but that hotel is still increasing the credit card balance. A gift for the grandparents keeping the kids while we went to NY last month, three invoices for rental work, and our YMCA membership are all on there. Our actual spending on things outside these costs is quite low, but it doesn’t look that way with the credit card balance.

I hit 100% of August rent paid as of August 30th. So I knew that I wasn’t going to be at 100% for September right away. I have one tenant who still owes half her rent, which is hopefully be paid over the next week and a half. They have blue collar jobs and seem to be caught up in layoffs. But they get a ton of credit because they always get right back up. They just ask me for a few weeks during that transition period, and I can’t respect that enough. They’re late a few times each year, but I’ve never charged them a late fee.

NET WORTH

Our net worth is up almost $600k from this time last year. From last month, it has increased by about $50k. Our credit card balance is similar to last month. Our cash has decreased a good amount as we had a roof replacement get paid out, but otherwise most line items moved in the ‘right’ direction.

August Financial Update

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Many of our activities over this last month were already paid for or minimal cost. We went to Colorado, and we’ve been doing back to school type activities. Mr. ODA was in Colorado longer than the rest of us (I flew home on my own with 3 kids!), and he went on a work trip for a week, so my goal has been activities outside of the house as much as possible in this final stretch before school starts. We’ve had quite a few activities on rental properties too.

RENTAL PROPERTIES

Historically, if the 1st through 5th of the month falls on a Friday, that’s the day that I receive rent. Meaning, if the 3rd is a Friday, then I get rent that day. This month, the 2nd was on Friday. I received very little rent. Going into the 5th, I was still waiting on 60% of rent payments; I was already told by 3 tenants (making up 23% of that amount I’m waiting on), that rent will be late this month. Luckily, 2 of those 3 tenants had paid partial rent already. That left 4 houses going into the 5th that hadn’t paid and I hadn’t heard from. That’s more than normal and was a bit worrisome. By the time of this post, I’m missing nearly $2,000 worth of rent, which is over 10%.

We’ve had several small actions that needed attention from our handyman, so I paid out on that. We had an AC go out before a hot weekend, so we had our technician go out and fix that (I haven’t seen that bill, but it’s expected to be around $1,000). Mr. ODA went out to a local house to properly fix their kitchen cabinets that were apparently never installed correctly (before we owned the house) to install them into the studs.

I was called for a garbage disposal that wasn’t working, and I attempted the fix on my own. I was nervous going into it, but I successfully fixed it in about two minutes. That felt good. I also went out to check on a roof replacement at a local house, and Mr. ODA replaced their deck. This tenant doesn’t communicate well whatsoever with us. She said “the deck is in bad shape.” That was it. Didn’t send a picture, didn’t give any details. I went out to check on it, and the deck stairs were hardly sturdy and none of the pickets were installed anymore around the decking part (it’s more of a landing than a deck when you think of size). It’s infuriating that people could not communicate such a dire issue. Most of my tenants do a great job, but this is why annual inspections are necessary.

PERSONAL ACTIVITIES

It has been a crazy month! I have thrived with the busy scheduled and a sense of accomplishment.

I was elected to our Homeowner’s Association board of directors this past month. I’ve spent a significant amount of my time going through that information and trying to get things organized and back on a schedule. I had my first meeting on the Landlord/Tenant Advisory Committee. And I joined on with a start-up school to be their financial consultant.

We signed our oldest kid up for Fall Ball and our second for gymnastics. She did acro last year, but I said all year that she would thrive better in actual gymnastics where they do more activities than dance. Our oldest started kindergarten, which is really exciting. That also required a lot of attention between back-to-school activities and paperwork to be filled out. I ran a 5k with zero training (I had run 1.4 miles the week leading up to the race), but my friend and I beat last year’s time by 5 minutes!

We worked on our own deck. A tree fell on it last July. We had to get our insurance company to understand our issue and fully cover the repairs that were necessary (it took them forever to get an engineer involved instead of all different adjusters). We finally got started in March on the replacement. After weeks and weeks and weeks of our contractor working on it, he finally ghosted us because he couldn’t get the waterproofing to be waterproof. So this past weekend, we tore up our deck boards and repairs the waterproofing issue. It’s supposed to rain this weekend, so hopefully we’ll see that our fix worked finally. Once we prove to ourselves that no water is getting down there, we can have the electricity finished. We also built a little wall to hide the storage being kept under the stairs under the deck, which was cool.

NET WORTH

Obviously, our investment accounts diminished slightly since last month, as the stock market has been a constant discussion point recently. Last August, my updated said: Our overall net worth went down slightly from last month because of market fluctuation. So this seems to be a typical cycle! Last year it was offset by a large insurance check we received, while this year our cash balance is much lower from last month to this month.

I have about $9k to still pay out on a roof replacement (insurance is covering most of it), about $1k to pay to a plumber, and a couple of other odd jobs that are waiting on invoicing. Our net worth isn’t 100% accurate this month because I don’t have access to a few accounts (well, I have the log in and password, but it requires either text or email verification to get logged in, and Mr. ODA holds those and isn’t available – annoying!). I also have a $1500+ insurance payment to make, but I’m purposely holding off until this credit card statement cycle ends so that I can feel like one month isn’t a crazy high balance.

To update our net worth, I have spreadsheets set up that I overwrite from last year. Last year’s August update had our net worth at $3.78 million. So even though this month is over $27k less than last month, we’re still up over $500k from a year ago without any drastic changes in investment portfolio.

5% Rent Cap

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The President issued a statement calling on Congress to cap rent increases at 5%, specifically for corporate landlords. The statement appears to define corporate landlords as those owning over 50 units in their portfolio. This was not an executive action that is implemented. And while my numbers are different than the numbers of a “corporate landlord,” I do think it’s worth hearing a landlord’s side. I feel that there’s a lot of spite against landlords without a lot of knowledge about their actual financials.

I admit that there is a possibility that some of these companies with large complexes could be raking in on the fees or “utilities” that are in the unit, without actually providing a properly maintained building, but that’s not the case for everyone that’s labeled as a landlord. No one seems to step back and see that this is a business model for landlords, and while everything else around us is increasing in costs, rent needs to as well.

No one predicted such a significant rise in product costs or housing costs in such a short period of time, but here we are. And landlords aren’t in the business to graciously eat the costs of homeownership for renters.

LANDLORD COST INCREASES

The Presidential statement released refers to a press release that starts with, “Today’s U.S. Labor Department Consumer Price Index (CPI) report revealed costs remained largely unchanged in May, with overall inflation cooling faster than economists expected as the Fed considers finally reducing interest rates below a 23-year high.” Is there a comparison to costs that landlords had to take on because the costs of everything increased faster than expected back in 2020-2022? Increases have been seen on small things like a maintenance call for a technician, but also big things like property taxes and insurance.

That same article goes on to state, “Since 2019, the cost of rent has risen 31.4%, with wages only increasing 23%, as tenants on average need to earn nearly $80,000 to not spend 30% or more of their income on rent.” In 2019, on one of my properties, the taxable assessment was $95,000, which equated to about $1,200 per year in taxes. In 2024, the taxable assessment was $242,000, which equates to about $3,000 per year in taxes. That’s a 61% increase in just my taxes over that same period of time where they’re complaining that the cost of rent increased by 31.4%. If rent had been set based on the 1% rule in 2019, rent would have been $950 per month. Had I increased 5% each year from 2019, it would be $1,212 in 2024. If I set rent based on the 1% rule now, it would be $2,420. However, the rent on the property is $1,750. So while it’s more than 5% each year since 2019 (the baseline the government is using), it’s set at an amount where I capture my expenses for owning the house, while also turning a small profit.

It’s taboo for a landlord to turn a profit, but that’s why we’re here. It’s an income stream that we’re establishing for profit. I don’t get to pay myself an hourly rate for managing the property. So this “profit” can actually be looked at like a salary. Every time I need to show the property to a prospective tenant, the lease signing, the walk through, every call or text you make, every trade that I need to schedule and coordinate with the tenant on, any fixes or improvements that I do myself. All of these minutes in a day add up, and I’m not directly paid for any of them.

On the particular house that I’m using for the example, we are assuming $300 per month in profit, which comes to $3,600 per year. Would you work as a manager of a company (e.g., hiring trades to fix things, performing maintenance, making sure all bills are paid timely, general management of having liabilities), for only $3,600 per year?

I wrote a post last Fall about the changes in my rental fixed costs from a year prior. I plan on doing the same this fall when more tax information comes due. The house I’m referring to has been at $1,750 for the past two years. However, between 2022 and 2023, my taxes and insurance have increased by $255 per year. That’s a cost that I’ve “eaten” from my “profits.” I could have said that equates to $22 per month increase, and I could have projected a similar increase for the year coming. I could change their monthly rent to be $1,790-$1,800 to keep my profits on a similar path. However, I didn’t, because they’re good tenants that haven’t had many maintenance calls.

However, if I don’t increase every year, then I could find myself in a sudden deficit like I did during the pandemic because costs increased faster than projected. A 5% cap could actually incentivize annual increases because I wouldn’t want to be caught behind and not able to catch up down the road.

LEASE TERMS

The Federal Housing Finance Agency announced protections for renters in multifamily properties that are financed with loans backed by Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac. The protections include: (a) requiring 30 day notice before rent increases; (b) requiring 30 day notice on lease expirations; and (c) providing a 5 day grace period before imposing late fees on rentals. I know for a fact that every single lease I’ve executed personally already has all of these requirements in it, at a minimum. In many cases, there’s a clause for 60 day notice of a potential rate increase, with negotiations being completed before 30 days from lease expiration.

Some states already have this codified. Other jurisdictions have landlord/tenant agreements that give the tenants rights (and awareness of rights) that can be lobbied against if the landlord is noncompliant.

There’s a clause that I’ve seen that requires expired leases to auto-renew on a month-to-month basis instead of for another year. I would argue that a requirement to renew a lease month-to-month instead of annually actually hurts a tenant. A landlord then only needs to give 30 days notice of a rent increase, and they could technically increase it month after month.

SUMMARY

If the ‘cap’ were to apply to me, then I’d be more inclined to increase rent every year. As a general rule, I increase rent for long term renters by $50 every two years. When we turnover a property, we will evaluate market rent in the area and set the monthly rent at what we see (which could be more than $50). In some cases, the evaluation ends up being too high, and we set the rent at something we think more people can afford. For example, there were comparable houses renting at $2,200 near a house we had listed. We’d rather get the property rented than shoot for top dollar, so we listed it at $1,600. While lower than “market value” probably called for, it was $400 higher than what we had it previously rented at, which covered cost increases that weren’t previously covered.

In the post that I previously linked, I highlight that our standard for increases barely offsets our increase in expenses. While we manage each house individually on setting the rates (asking ourselves: do we think the tenant can absorb the increase, do we have to increase to cover actual costs now), our monthly income among all houses was increased by $475. If you add up the cost increases for taxes, insurance, and property management (increased rent means increased fees because fees are based on the rent price), our costs went up $415 (and that’s before any service calls). On a whole, we’ve offset the ‘fixed cost’ increases. We’re taking ‘losses’ on houses where our routine for increases is slower. Therefore, having 13 properties affords us the ability to be more lenient with tenants and to keep good tenants in the house instead of forcing them out with hgher rent increases.

I support having protections in place for tenants. I’m sure there are landlords out there that aren’t interested in playing ‘by the book’ and just being decent human beings like I intend to. However, landlords are people too, and they’re running a business. Creating boundaries without fully understanding both sides of the situation and focusing on data points that only support your theory is unfair. I’ve joined the Landlord/Tenant Advisory Committee in my city. I hope to bring more awareness to the landlord side of things and bridge the gap between landlords and tenants when it comes to responsibilities.

June Financial Update

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Welcome to summer, where we’re traveling and I’m not posting on time. This time it was because I had to figure out a few things with bills and health before I had the time to get to the update. I can schedule content in advance, but not this post where I need the most up to date numbers when talking about our net worth.

We’ve been busy with baseball and activities around the house, so our spending was lower than it had been. However, this time of year is typically where we see a lot of our rental property expenses come through. We purchased many houses around this time, which puts their insurance payments due now. Then the City of Richmond’s tax payments are due in June and December also. The City of Richmond doesn’t post our escrow payments timely, and it drives me crazy. Every 6 months, I get notification that I have unpaid taxes and it’s the due date. I have then go through every escrow and prove to myself that they were in fact paid out over 3 weeks ago, and then I have to go back and check that Richmond posts them eventually. I stopped sending checks into them for the accounts that aren’t escrowed because it took too long to monitor, so I pay the $0.95 fee to pay via their ACH option online.

Mr. ODA had been in a relationship with a financial advisor, which was $35 per month. Over the last 3 months, Mr. ODA has been working to become his ‘apprentice.’ He passed his Series 65 exam and will begin working on this guy’s team. Not that $35 is a huge amount, but that’s one less ‘subscription’ that we’re paying monthly.

Speaking of subscriptions, we did something that I’d venture to guess other people wouldn’t put the effort into. One of our credit cards (that we rarely use) had a promotion for a $15 statement credit if we had at least $100 worth of subscription and/or utility payments go through. Most of our utilities can’t be paid with a credit card without paying a fee. The fee for our internet service was low enough that we went ahead and switched that one over for one month. Then I went into our Y membership and switched the credit card on file for that payment. With a few button clicks in May and then later this month to switch everything back, we made $15. It doesn’t seem huge, but it’s the compound of that thought process and awareness that makes a difference in your finances.

The ‘bigger’ expenses of the month were one kid’s school registration fee ($175), purchased baseball tickets (the Oriole’s don’t charge for 2 kids per paying adult!), got an oil change ($65 ugh), paid two homeowners insurance policies that aren’t escrowed ($1,371), paid for pet sitting for a coming trip ($155), paid car insurances ($567), and built a few steps in a new walkway ($275). Our deck isn’t complete because the waterproofing isn’t waterproofed. We haven’t paid out the last $3,500 on that, but we also haven’t heard from our contractor in several weeks.

We initiated a homeowners insurance claim for one of our properties. The tenant wasn’t complaining about the house/roof, but we knew the roof and soffit were in rough shape. I was hesitant to contact a roofer because I wanted the job done right. I expected the house is really old, and there would be decking problems to fix. I dragged my feet on finding someone, but I did click with someone finally. He went out and actually suggested we go for a claim to cover the replacement. We’re in the process of that now. An adjuster has been out to see the damage, and now we wait for the estimate. In the meantime, another property had water spots on the ceiling show up. I had the roofer go out there to check it out, but he didn’t see anything glaring. That roof also needs replaced, but I’m going to get at least one more quote on that job since it’s not through insurance.

All the good things (assets) went up and all the bad things (liabilities) went down! Our net worth increased by $60k over the last month.

Hitting our Goals

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I mentioned at the beginning of the year that our general financial goal is $4 million net worth. I acknowledge that this is not a specific goal that most people can relate to. But I also pointed out that we weren’t always sitting with nearly that amount in our accounts, and that made me start thinking about where we were. This is long, but I didn’t think it worth splitting into multiple posts. I’ve gone into the topic in general, but this is our actual story and the steps we experienced.

This is just meant to show you that you can grow each year and slowly chip away at a goal. Everyone makes fun of the “don’t buy Starbucks everyday” philosophy. It’s not that saving that $7 per day is literally going to make you a millionaire in itself. It’s saying that if you’re willing to spend that $7 daily, that’s likely indicative of other spending in your day, and you should be more deliberate with your spending. I saw a meme on Instagram that said something similar about buying decor for your home, and if you’re willing to spend “just $25 on this lamp,” those little expenses add up over the year. I’m a broken record in saying make every purchase a deliberate, thought-out action; I went into how much effort (and years) I put in to purchasing a $4 tape dispenser on this post.

The background here is to first show you how I had no money, but I’ve been diligent on my spending and working towards goals. Mr. ODA was more of a saver and more prepared for the big life expenses in your early 20s. The part where we work towards buying a house is where we really buckled up and made life decisions that kept us on that track. Our money philosophies have gotten us to where we are today – every dollar has a purpose.

MY FINANCIAL HISTORY: COLLEGE, WHERE I STARTED MY INDEPENDENCE

I never liked relying on other people, so I was interested in making my own way as fast possible. My parents gave me an ultimatum during my sophomore year of college – either become a resident assistant for free room and board, or take out loans to help pay for it in the next two years. I didn’t want to take out loans, so I started looking for off campus housing. I didn’t mind living on campus. I have no idea why I was so dead-set against taking out loans and how that would have been ingrained in me at that time. But living off campus would allow me to pay month to month, instead of living on campus where I’d have to pay each semester’s housing costs up front.

On top of that, my dad offered me to buy out his car. He had let me drive the car to college that year, but around Christmas time, it started acting funny. It turned out that second gear in the transmission needed to be replaced. He said I could pay for the fix, and then it could be my car. I didn’t like the idea of being 3.5 hours away from my family and having a car that appeared unreliable. So I went car shopping, and I leased a Honda Civic. My car payment was about $300/month. I leased it instead of buying it because I didn’t need to put any money down.

I worked three jobs that summer after my sophomore year of college. It was so hard. I was working 40 hour weekends, and then I’d put hours in during the week. I remember getting burnt out and being overwhelmed because I had to miss my sister’s graduation party. I was working at a catering hall, which meant late hours on Friday and Saturday, and early hours on Sunday. I was also working at a bagel shop (big on Long Island), which was a 5:45 am call time, but at least I’d be done by 10 am. Then I was working as a cashier at K-Mart, which was Monday through Thursday in the afternoon or evening, and sometimes on Friday.

Even though I was working all those jobs, I still struggled with paying my bills once I got to college for my junior year. I paid too much for rent because I wanted to live on my own. None of my friends were interested in living off campus, and I was too afraid to live with someone I didn’t know. My parents ended up giving me $100/month for 6 months so I could pay to run my heat. I remember it being October, and I told my mom that I hadn’t turned my heat on yet. So she sent me the money each month to cover the heating bill instead of trying to live in layers and blankets because I didn’t want to pay for it.

When I moved back up to college, I was working at JCPenney while going to school. I did pretty well. My grades didn’t suffer, and I still felt like I had a life so I didn’t get burnt out with only work and school. I took on extra shifts and stopped going home for the smaller holidays (e.g., Thanksgiving) so that I could work.

MY FINANCIAL HISTORY: MY BIG GIRL JOB

My guidance counselor told me that financial firms would be expecting internships on my resume. This was 2007; financial firms were fat and happy, so they weren’t paying interns. I kept my eye on the job boards (which were literal bulletin boards) in the financial building. I found an internship with the Federal government that was paying $13/hour! I applied in August. I heard nothing for weeks, so I gave up hope. Suddenly, I received a call asking me to come in for an interview on Halloween! I had never interviewed before, so this was scary. Then the guy told me that they didn’t even know if they were going to hire a mid-career hire or go the internship route, and they had never had an intern before. That was the second time I gave up hope. A month later, I received the job offer, and I started working in December 2007.

From the start, I put money into the Thrift Savings Plan (TSP), which is the government’s 401k equivalent. My parents told me to take each raise I got and put it right into there also. If I was used to living on the lower amount, then keep the rest in savings. I followed that advice until I maxed out the contributions. I didn’t have trouble paying my bills, but I wasn’t saving as much as I should have for rainy days.

MY FINANCIAL HISTORY: MEETING MR. ODA

Mr. ODA showed up in my office in October 2009. Shortly after meeting him, we were hanging out, and next thing I knew, he was asking me my social security number. He was signing me up for a rewards credit card, since I had a credit card through my bank that was getting me no incentives. By the time I met him, I was living comfortably, but I wasn’t saving with a goal in mind. Whatever was left over became savings, and it didn’t matter to me what that number was. I was maxing out my TSP and paying my bills comfortably, and that seemed good enough for me.

OUR FINANCIAL HISTORY: IN A RELATIONSHIP

Mr. ODA came with a lot more money than that into the relationship. He had always been planning to save for two big purchases: an engagement ring and a house. To me, buying a house was somewhere down the road, but I didn’t have the confidence to move forward on that. I hope to instill that confidence in my children because that would have made a big difference.

Mr. ODA designed my engagement ring at a little mom and pop jewelry store in Harrisburg, PA (long story on where we’ve lived, for how long, and why). He proposed in November 2011. In December, I moved to DC, and Mr. ODA joined me shortly after. We lived in an apartment. We lived halfway between where he and I worked, but I admit we paid way more for rent than we prudently should have. Even though I grew up in the shadows of New York City, actually living in a big city was scary to me. We went on a house hunting trip, and I struggled with anything that didn’t look really nice/new. We were able to get a reduced rent rate, but at about $800 per month for each of us, it was significantly more than the $450 per month I was paying in Albany, NY.

The goal was to rent for a year while we scoped out the area to find a house to buy. We didn’t know anything about Northern Virginia, and we wanted to go to open houses to learn how far our money would go. Newsflash: not far.

OUR FINANCIAL HISTORY: A WEDDING

While we explored the area for a house, we were also planning a wedding. We paid for more than half of our wedding. My parents gave us a chunk of money towards it. If I had been married in Kentucky, it would have covered most of the wedding. However, I grew up on Long Island, and a wedding is a very different kind of event there. I probably wouldn’t have known any different had I not attended several weddings in South Carolina, where weddings were low key. After looking at venues in both Kentucky and New York, I ended up breaking down one day that I had always dreamed of a specific type of wedding, and Kentucky just wasn’t it.

I saved as much as I could in all the other areas since the venue was so expensive. The venue cost included all the catering, staff, and cake. I went cheap on invitations, my dress, favors. I just didn’t have the cash on hand to do a lot, and I wish I had done more. I also wish that I had been married on site at that venue instead of in my hometown church, but it is what it is. I also went cheaper on the photographer, and the day was terrible because of him. I recommend to everyone to get a good photographer and really check their portfolio (and if they do crazy things for photos, don’t trust that they’ll not do crazy things when you ask them not to).

We got married in August, after our November engagement. We had to lay out over $12k for that. The unexpected part of that was that we found a house to buy earlier that summer.

OUR FINANCIAL HISTORY: OUR FIRST HOUSE

Mr. ODA was a good saver. The problem was that he didn’t expect to pay for a wedding, and he didn’t expect to live in Northern Virginia. He was expecting to buy a house around $150k. We were struggling to find a house with walls and floors (literally) at $350k.

We lived a meager state for that year. Our goal was to spend less than $5 per day on food. That meant we weren’t spending money at restaurants. We were packing our lunches for work days. We were living off of macaroni and cheese. We weren’t taking trips. And yes, we were literally tracking our expenses on food each day.

THIS IS IMPORTANT: We were preapproved to buy a house up to $750,000. THAT IS STUPID. We didn’t want to pay PMI, so our purchasing power was based on our down payment being 20% (if you don’t come to the table for a conventional loan with 20% of the purchase price, the bank tacks on PMI). Between loans we could take from each TSP, cash on hand that we projected to have with our savings over the year, and possible liquidation of investments, we projected we could have about $70,000 on hand. That means we were shooting for $350,000 as the purchase price.

Our Realtor knew we were approved for double that, but we held our ground on our price range. We considered several properties. We put an offer in on a house at $380k. It was a bank owned foreclosure that they had flipped for resale. The flip was bare bones, but the house looked ok. We wouldn’t need to put immediate work into it. Our offer was declined. Then later that day, the bank called and asked if we still wanted it. We were instructed that the previous bidder attempted to counter the bank, and that’s why we were given the offer. We weren’t willing to lose it and accepted. We were under contract for a $380,000 house. That meant we needed at least $76,000 by closing.

Mr. ODA and I each took out TSP loans, we were gifted money from our parents, and we used our savings. Our final closing costs were just over $78k. We got our 20% down, so no PMI. We then spent the next 3-5 years paying ourselves back in our TSP. The loan payment amounts were adjustable, so we paid more when we could, but we had the flexibility to back off some of the payment totals if we needed to.

OUR FINANCIAL HISTORY: SELLING OUR FIRST HOUSE

We bought our first house in July 2012. We sold the house in September 2015. In that time, the house appreciated by $70k. On top of that, we had the 20% equity we had put down, and we had the equity for the principal payments we made over the previous 3 years. We were moving from the DC area down to the Richmond, VA area. We ended up purchasing a new construction home for about $360k. After putting 20% down on that purchase and paying off some debt (I had a car payment, and even though it was 0.9% interest, I wanted to manage less payments per month), we needed to decide on what to do with the rest of the money from the sale. Mr. ODA convinced my to put that towards rentals.

OUR FINANCIAL HISTORY: RENTAL PURCHASES

With that extra equity we had sitting in our account (which we had in an interest earning account), we purchased 3 rental properties (all with at least 20% down). The leap of faith we took into a landlord role, while figuring out things we didn’t know as we went is why we’re where we are now. We created a semi-passive income stream with these rental properties. Our savings continued to grow, which we used to purchase several more rental properties (again, with at least 20% down each time).

OUR FINANCIAL HISTORY: MRS. ODA ‘RETIRED’

By 2017, we had several rental properties, had paid off all our debts (e.g., car, TSP loans, IVF cost), and the net from the rentals was enough to replace my six-figure income. At that time, we had no kids, so there was no ‘real’ reason for me to not be working. As I continued to work, we kept it in mind that we’d be losing my regular income in the near future. I kept working, drawing down my leave balances, until our son was 8 months old (May 2019). I’ve worked a few random jobs here and there since then, but that was for something to do and not because we needed money.

MAKING GOALS

Mr. ODA had a goal of $1 million by 30. He exceeded it. At no point did we say “reach $4 million by 40” or anything like that. However, we’ve regularly tracked our net worth and made smart moves with the money we have. We don’t keep money in a liquid state for long. We make sure our money is working for us as much as possible. We take calculated risks that allow for interest earnings.

We also keep our ears open for extra income opportunities. We’ve been secret shoppers before, and I’ve taken on different short term work roles. That extra income isn’t meant to be frivolously spent; it’s income that we still utilize to move our family’s goals forward. We don’t buy the latest gadgets, but it’s not like we don’t have nice things. We spend will intention within our means; we don’t take out personal loans (e.g., furniture loans, layaway loans).

A goal that keeps moving due to preference is that Mr. ODA will stop working a full time job as well. The lack of insurance options is keeping that from becoming a reality, but if we really wanted to push it, he could quit tomorrow because we’re in a good financial spot. Nearly a year ago, we set up a separate bank account to have his pay check go into. It’s nice to know that we can live without his income, all the while having that bank account as a safety net.