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Property Assessments & Rent

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At the end of last year, I received each property’s revised assessments for 2024 tax purposes. To no surprise, every single property drastically increased. A harder pill to swallow is to see how much it increased just from two years ago.

Higher home sales are great – if you’re in the market to sell. If not, it’s just fueling the local jurisdiction’s ability to increase their tax income. Again, this increase is great for a resale opportunity, but it’s not great when we’re content in our “buy and hold” at the moment.

Where I live, we received our property assessments recently as well. There was an uproar from the citizens. The Property Valuation Administration explained the increases and how they work, noting that home values in our area have exactly doubled since 2014. While their valuation process only occurs every few years, and home prices are increasing about 10% each year, people are seeing 30-50% valuation increases when they receive their notice.

COMPARABLE SALES

When determining a property’s assessed value, whether it’s for tax purposes or a bank loan or such, nearby home sales are used as the basis. Home sales denote what buyers are willing to pay (and likely what an assessor determined as fair market value) for a home. To determine your home value, you would need to look at sales in your neighborhood or close geographic area, for homes (and lots) that are of similar size with a similar number of bedrooms and bathrooms. There are factors that you can use to compensate for a different number of bedrooms and bathrooms, but it’s easiest if you find homes with similar data points.

In today’s market, you’re also going to focus on home sales in very recent months. The amount that a person is willing to pay, and the amount that a bank is willing to loan, is increasing regularly. A home value in 2021 is different than today’s.

HOW DOES A PROPERTY ASSESSMENT AFFECT YOUR RENT?

I wrote a post that went into the details of how our expenses have changed over the last year on these rental houses. It’s noteworthy, as a renter, to be aware of the changes in property assessments because it’ll help you anticipate and understand the need for rent increases that will be coming.

I recently saw someone complain that a landlord was raising rent with no improvements. Rent increases aren’t tied to improving the house (well, they can be). Rent increases are keeping up with the costs that are increasing for the landlord.

I’m a broken record on this, but I’ll continue to work to educate. When you rent a house, you see the one cost. You don’t see that the landlord is holding the mortgage. That mortgage likely has escrow that pays for insurance and taxes, which both increase every year. Even if it’s not escrowed, the landlord is taking the time to manage the income/expenses of the house and paying out the taxes and insurance.

You also don’t see the maintenance costs. When you call me to have a plumber come out, that’s an expense. I used to pay $125 for a service call and minimal work. Now that’s $200-375. Your rent is covering that possible future expense. Could you imagine if you found out you needed a new water heater in the house; would you have $1500 to hand over in a day’s time? As a renter, your rent is set to cover those future expenses.

We typically reserve rent increases for every other year, and it’s usually $50 per month. There have been some cases where a tenant has negotiated less, and a few other cases where we increased the rate more than $50 per month because of the drastic expense increases we incurred. I learned that if I don’t increase $50 every two years, I end up behind on the increases that are coming in future years. I don’t want to increase rent by $100 /month on a good tenant, so I try to keep with this schedule. I always explain that this increase is due to carrying costs. I also always provide a written documentation and give the tenant the option to move out. I’ve never had a tenant move out because of a proposed increase.

SUMMARY

If you’re interested in knowing more about these numbers, review the post that I linked. You’ll see that my annual costs increased by over $4,500 on these properties. You’ll also see that in some cases, where I prefer to only increase rent every two years instead of annually for tenant satisfaction, I’m not keeping up with the cost increases I’m incurring. House3’s two year cost increases of that property’s insurance and taxes total over $125 per month; I increased their rent $50 per month. I have other properties that can float that loss I’m taking there, but having happy, polite, and courteous tenants who take care of the property like its their own is more important to me than drastic rent increases and risking someone less vigilant moving in.

So the next time a landlord increases your rent when your lease term expires, understand that it’s to cover the expenses they’re covering for you to live there. When the property sales in the area increase, know that the landlord’s taxes are increasing, which equates to a higher rent needed to cover it.

House 7 Turnover

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Our turnover this year has been higher than usual. However, it’s been for good reasons, and not just because someone is looking to rent from a different landlord, so I’ll take that win. In this case, the tenant was house hunting. We knew that a year ago, and we had set up our lease to allow them to break it. Since April was their last month in this current lease term, there was no “lease break fee” associated with their notice. They gave us notice at the end of February, which requires 30 days worth of payment. March rent was paid.

They had moved out of the house early though, which ended up being very helpful. The house needed a lot of work. There was a lot of deferred maintenance on this house. We bought the house as a flip. It looked fine on the surface, but we knew it wasn’t going to hold up. Our last couple of turnovers happened really quickly, so we didn’t put much effort into the turnover process. With the extra time, we knew we needed to address some issues.

PAINT: $2,750

First, we finally got the flat roof addition fixed on this house last summer. The flippers before us had added a laundry room to the back of the house. They used the existing covered deck infrastructure, and it was horrible. They didn’t tie it into the house correctly, so we endured several leaks into the laundry room. We struggled for years to get a roofer who would address it for us. We even hired a roofer, highlighted the flat roof issue, and missed that his contract didn’t do anything except replace the shingles on the main house roof. There was plenty of saga once we finally found someone to rebuild it, but it’s done. We hadn’t fixed the drywall from the leaks, so that needed to be done now (a.k.a. deferred maintenance).

We found a painter who repaired the drywall, repainted the ceiling, and painted the walls. He also painted most of the trim in the house to white (there was some damage on the baseboards that needed fixed) and all the walls Green Tint by Benjamin Moore.

Two tenants ago, we had given an offer that if she wanted to paint any of the rooms, we’d offer a rent concession. That was part of the deferred maintenance; most of the house was dingy white that took a beating over the years, but we never had the time between tenants already lined up to paint everything. She took us up on that offer. She even painted the bathroom vanity and medicine cabinet. It was a beautiful robins egg blue, but we didn’t have the paint to do a few touchups on the side of the vanity that were needed. Our painter added that to the work at no cost. He absolutely didn’t need to do that! But everything has a fresh coat of paint now, and I’m so happy at the facelift it gave.

FLOORING: $6,613

When we first bought this house, the bedrooms on the first floor had dingy carpet in it. The prospective tenant we had requested we replace the carpet. I can’t remember the series of events, but we determined it was better to refinish the hardwoods underneath the carpet than to continuously replace the carpets every 3-6 years. They’ve held up pretty well, but they are starting to show wear at 7 years in.

Regardless, we didn’t touch the carpet on the stairs or on the second floor of the house. It’s blue indoor/outdoor carpet. I truly can’t believe we’ve been able to house renters in this place with this carpet still in place. We’ve put it off because re-carpeting stairs is just so expensive relative to doing a whole room. One of the bedrooms on the second floor even has wood paneling, which just made it even more amazing that anybody wanted this house. It was not the most aesthetically pleasing place.

We replaced all the carpet. With the fresh carpet and fresh paint, it’s looking so much more inviting.

Then we move on to the kitchens and bathrooms. The first floor bathroom and kitchen floor were clearly just lipstick-on-a-pig situations by the flippers. The subfloor was clearly bowing and making all the cheap tile crack. The humidity issues in the bathroom (I’ll touch more on in a moment) weren’t helping matters in there.

Here you can see the kitchen (and its pink knobs!) with the tile floor. The tile had all cracked by this time.

The upstairs bathroom was original 1970s linoleum. Here’s a snip of it in its glory.

Trying to match/add the hardwood was not an option. We considered ‘luxury vinyl tile,’ but that was more expensive than I wanted to put in a rental property. I didn’t want to retile it because I just personally don’t find tile floors to be warm and cozy for a house. The only reasonable option left is ‘luxury vinyl plank.’

We requested a quote from Home Depot. Their quote was cheaper than the one we ended up going with, but we didn’t use them for good reason. We had a subfloor issue in another house. Home Depot was extremely difficult to work with. Not only were they doing questionable work, they also just threw their hands up at the subfloor issue. Luckily, we had a friend that was able to help us repair it (because we didn’t live there). We know for a fact that there’s subfloor issues here (we can see the bow in the floor at the sliding door), so we wanted to go with a contractor who could handle everything.

We picked a local company. They did both the carpet and the LVP. They were so easy to work with. I didn’t love that they wanted me to pay for the entire job up front, but it ended up being great. They had to come back to finish a few tasks, and they did it all perfectly. I’m really happy with the process and their product.

Another miscellaneous flooring issue was that the vent covers were rotting. The finish on them were peeling. This could be explained by humidity in the bathroom, but that doesn’t really explain the issues in the kitchen and living room also. Our handyman was able to pop those out and get new, clean looking ones in for us.

RANDOM WORK

We had to call on our handyman for random jobs. He had to tighten the front porch banister. It’s likely the original banister and has just corroded at the connections. He also had to tighten up the screen door (which, if it were to break would be removed; having to maintain non-essential pieces of a rental is no fun). Some light fixtures needed major TLC. We replaced the light fixtures in both second floor bedrooms, the sconce type light fixture in the half bath upstairs, and the main bathroom’s vanity light (it was all corroded and looked bad).

The upstairs half bathroom had a brown accordion door. The pieces were falling off and it just generally looked bad. The space is tight, and an accordion door style was definitely the best solution for the area, so we had a white one put in. It’s still less than ideal, but it looks much better.

The previous tenant didn’t clean up the yard as they were supposed to, so we had to hire out that work. We also asked him to clear the gutters, which was very necessary because it looked like trees were growing out of them with how many twigs were stuck. He charged me $250 to rake the leaves from the yard and flower beds, mow the yard, and trim the bushes. Then he added on $50 for the gutter clean out. We also did a final mowing before the new tenants moved in, and he charged me $60 for that.

I’m not exactly sure what the issue is, but for some reason we had water damage in the main bathroom. It wasn’t water damage in the sense of standing water. It was just too much moisture. The mirror was corroded; the tub faucet handles were corroded; the caulk was all moldy (and we knew it was fine a year ago); the walls had water streaks on it. I don’t know how it was fine for years and now it’s not, but I’m guessing the only answer is that last tenant just liked really hot showers and didn’t use the vent or window. The tub knobs were so corroded that they had to be sawed off and new valves and such installed. Luckily our plumber was able to handle it timely and it looks better now, but that was a minor inconvenience.

The back sliding door had always been questionable. No one ever pushed us on it though, so we didn’t know just how bad it was. I don’t know that the door ever fully locked. There was a block used to hold it shut for security measures (although I feel like everyone who has a sliding door uses something like that). I finally wanted it replaced. It was likely the original door (think nickel type finish), and it was overdue. We did this through Home Depot because I knew their prices were reasonable and it should be an in/out job. It was $1063.

NEW TENANT

Our property manager showed the property to several candidates. Only two provided their interest form timely. An interest form is a way to gather background documentation on the potential tenant without the tenant having to spend any money. It’s a way for the prospect to divulge any negative remarks on their credit or background check. It’s a good gesture that we allow them to fill this out before spending money on an application fee that will identify disqualifying information. We have found that some people don’t tell us anything, and then they’ve spend $43 for us to say they don’t qualify.

Both prospects submitted their interest forms on April 18. Unfortunately, both of them were interested in a mid-May lease start date. They both offered to do a 2 year lease as a compensating factor though, which was a nice gesture. I also appreciated that both of them were well spoken and up front with a lot of information.

We chose someone and ran her background check. Several “unlawful detainers” (a.k.a. evictions) came through, which hadn’t been disclosed. We told her that her credit score was slightly below 600 and the unlawful detainers would disqualify her. She then wrote back a very nice note explaining all the data that we found and asked us to reconsider. We agreed to rent to her and to take a higher security deposit as a compensating factor. She agreed to the 1.5 times a month’s rent as a security deposit.

Unfortunately, the house was vacant for a month and a half. Luckily, during that time we were able to get a lot of work done in the house. I hope that this tenant takes good care of the home and that we’re pleasantly surprised with her tenancy regardless of her history of late payments and court filings.

Lack of Rental Payment

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I was going to include this in a financial update post, but it was too long and complicated to include there. I really want this to be a lesson for anyone reading this – mostly on the renter end, but perhaps for a budding landlord as well. We tried really hard to work with the tenant, but we can’t work with someone who doesn’t communicate up front and doesn’t keep her word constantly. When using statements like “I need to keep the water and electricity on for my kids,” understand that the roof over their head isn’t a given. I’m a private landlord and be lenient, but an apartment complex type situation isn’t going to allow you to not pay for months on end; they’re going to file for eviction on the first day 6.

THE DETAILS

After this house was flooded by a tenant, we got it fixed up and on the market. The options at the time were limited; plenty of people were interested, but they weren’t qualified. The area called for $2,200, but I wanted it to move quickly, so we listed at $1600. The previous tenant was paying $1200, so this felt like a huge jump. No one qualified for the property. We had two options that were close enough to our requirements.

We chose a single mom who worked two jobs herself to be able to afford this place. Honestly, kudos to her for her effort. She lost both those jobs (we knew about one, but not both) and ran into some other troubles. She has worked hard to get herself back on track. I commend all that. She’s wonderful like that. Her communication (or lack thereof) was infuriating.

At the beginning of October, she said she’s back on track now with a steady income (replacing both jobs), but with all the outstanding bills, she’s going to need time to catch up. I’m a very understanding person and work with my tenants as long as they work with me. Instead of telling me WHEN I should expect to see payments, she left it open ended with “sometime in October.” I gave her the benefit of doubt. Then two Fridays passed with $0 paid. I asked for an update through our property manager.

On the 16th, she sent over $300 (after we had to ask for payment), and wrote, “I will be sending another payment this upcoming Friday and typically Fridays going forward.” Typically. She reiterated that October would be paid before the end of the month, and then she’d need about two weeks to pay November’s after that. She did pay $500 that following Friday, and then missed the next Friday.

My property manager had to follow up with her 3 times before she actually received an answer. The tenant claimed she had been too busy to respond. Excuse me, but keeping a roof over your head should be a priority in your life (this will be a theme). I asked for a payment plan instead of this open-ended concept of payment. On November 1st, she finally responded that she was going to pay $400-700 every Friday, going forward, unless she needed to pay other bills. Again. “I’ll pay you when I pay you, unless I don’t pay you.” This isn’t appropriate.

She paid $700, as goods and services, on November 3rd. All fees are the tenant’s responsibility, so now she owed another $15. She ended up sending $50 over that same day. At this point, it’s November 3rd, and she’s still $60+ short on October’s rent and $0 towards November. As expected, Friday November 10th came and went with no communication and no payment. She ended up sending an email in the early morning hours of the 11th stating she’s waiting on a deposit to clear, so she’ll pay something on Monday. She did pay that Monday. However, she had said she’d pay every Friday, and the 17th came and went with no payment. Again.

On the morning of the November 18th, I sent the notice of default. It said she had 5 days to pay the entire balance or we’d file for eviction. She threw a little tantrum, claiming she wanted to end her lease. It doesn’t work like that. My property manager had a good idea and was able to articulate our frustration sternly, yet professionally. The property manager said that “forgetting” and “life” getting in the way were not acceptable responses, and it was time to be responsible for herself and her bills, perhaps by setting alarms or utilizing her calendar for reminders. The offer included our waiving of December and January late fees ($160 each) if the tenant continued to pay every Friday without us having to follow up. I thought the incentive was great. The tenant then paid $700 on the 24th and $600 on 12/1. At that point, she was caught up on October and November (sans late fees though), while paying into December’s rent owed.

She paid the first two Fridays in December, missed the 22nd, and paid on the 29th. At the end of December, she had a balance owed of just over $500, which included all late fees, so that was a decent position. Then things went downhill again. She paid nothing until January 17th, and it was only $100 that day. She claimed an issue with the amount she was able to send over, but stopped trying. When we asked why she mentioned $400 in $50 increments, but only sent over $100, she acted like we did something wrong. Over the next week, she ended up sending $300. At the end of January, she owed $1,863.40.

TENANT VACATES THE PROPERTY

In mid-January, seeing that communication was getting worse, and payments weren’t even being made, we asked her to leave. I was really trying to get through February so that we’d have a more favorable market time to list it. She said she didn’t want to leave. That’s a bold statement from someone who owes a lot. On January 25th, we sent her the 5 day notice until eviction document, which showed her balance due. We offered her the ability to leave the house by the end of the month with minimal damages, and we’d just keep her security deposit. Her initial response was that she wants to finish interviews she has scheduled, and she didn’t want to leave.

Within 24 hours, she decided she did want to leave. For the first time in all of this, she fully explained her situation. She gave good reason to have until February 4th to leave (instead of the end of January). We allowed it, but she’d be responsible for those days of rent in February.

As a final goodbye, she told us she would be able “to make another payment that first week of February.” As I suspected, she meant the week of February 5th, and not the 1st or 2nd. She didn’t pay. On February 9th, she “kindly” asked for an extension for the final payment, since she was expecting her tax refund in the next two weeks.

I don’t need to tell you at this point – two weeks came and went. She did end up paying over $500 on 2/29 though. That was more than I ever expected. I don’t know how she arrived at her number (she did email an explanation, but the numbers didn’t add up), but I’m accepting it.

TURNOVER

She actually left the house in great condition. She had sticking LED light strips in a bedroom that said they were easily removed. However, when she removed them, paint came with it. I had to have someone touch that up. She bought blinds, but didn’t hang them, for ones that were damaged (she had asked us to pay for them when she first moved in, so that was a nice gesture to uphold the integrity of the request), so I had to have someone do that. Then I paid someone to clean the house, which is normal. Overall, she was difficult to communicate with, but I do believe she meant well.

BACKGROUND & EXPECTATIONS

I have a track record of being very lenient and very understanding. I promise. I can provide lots of examples where I’ve let people know to take their time, prioritize back to school necessities, waive the late fee, etc. I can not work with you if you don’t talk to me. I don’t know what you need. I don’t know you as a person and whether you’re “good for it.” I need to know your expectations, needs, and plan. Talk to me without me hunting you down for information. I don’t know where I’ve said this before in this blog, but I’m positive you can find that or a very similar statement made throughout. Understand that in nearly all other scenarios, a landlord is not going to be patient for 4 full months to try to get you to pay rent owed.

She said phrases to me that were generally that she has kids so keeping the water and electricity current is her priority (isn’t keeping a roof over their heads equally important?), or that she asked for grace and patience (what have I been doing? I could have issued you the first step of the eviction process on October 6th, and I didn’t, even though you didn’t pay a penny towards rent until the 16th). It’s things like that get under my skin and make my efforts feel unappreciated, making not want to work with you going forward. Take the time to acknowledge how gracious I HAVE been, that I have bills to pay in addition to you having bills to pay, that I deserve to be given regular updates and information without having to follow up and beg for information.

My property manager says “she’s young” and “she’s learning.” There have been learning opportunities, but it’s also not my role to mentor a tenant on how to be an upstanding citizen and uphold your commitments. There were two other late rent moments this summer where my property manager said that if there’s any issues with rental payment, we need to know ASAP, without us having to make phone calls or send emails. My property manager reiterated this expectation on October 31st over the phone – don’t miss a Friday rent payment, assume we know you’re not paying anything, and leave it at that (I already played the “benefit of doubt” game through October when we received $0 for half the month).

LESSON

Communicate with the landlord. Don’t put the landlord in a position where they’re having to keep track of your financials and whether you’re paying timely. Pay regularly or communicate up front. All of my leases state that rent is due without demand. My having to regularly ask for an update or why you haven’t paid a single penny halfway through a month is not in any realm an acceptable way of doing business.

Renters need to understand that landlords have bills to pay. Those bills (that mortgage) are not as lenient as I’m trying to be with you. If I don’t pay my mortgage, there’s a late fee and it’s immediately reported on my credit. They also don’t accept partial payments. If I don’t pay for long enough, it becomes a foreclosure. As a tenant, you don’t know if I have funds to cover that payment. Assume I don’t. If I don’t pay my mortgage, the house is foreclosed, and you’re kicked out anyway. You’re getting by without any credit hits, as you’re now two to four months behind on rent. I’m floating mortgage payments on your behalf. Lucky for you, I’m on top of my credit and paying these bills even if you’re not paying me, but that isn’t an assumption you should make.

Your actions have consequences. You can mitigate those consequences by upholding your word and keeping in regular communication on what’s happening (again, up front, not after the deadline passes).

April Financial Update

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I had this post mostly written by Wednesday, but we traveled earlier this week, and I haven’t kept track of the day very well. This is the first I’ve been able to update our net worth and get this done. Ironic, considering how I started this post when I expected it to be on time. And now..

This past month has been exhausting on me. I knew March was going to be busy. We had a bunch of sports schedules to manage, lots of kids birthday parties, hosting my dad for a long weekend that coincided with 3 family birthdays and the first anniversary of my mom’s passing, an assortment of Easter activities, a trip, and random other events. On top of managing these day-to-day things for our family, our deck replacement started, and we had to work on a massive turnover of a rental property. I’m in a perpetual state of tired these last few weeks.

DECK REPLACEMENT

On July 2nd of last year, a storm blew threw that destroyed our neighborhood. Honestly, we’re surprised by how little actual structure damage there was for our neighborhood because it looked like a war zone with the amount of trees down. A couple of houses had a tree fall on their roof, but only cause minimal damage that resulted in shingle replacement. We appeared to bear the brunt of the worst, which was a tree falling on our deck, crushing our furniture, moving all the supports, and cracking the concrete blow it. Another tree missed falling on one of our cars by centimeters, but that limb ended up cracking our driveway apron. We struggled communicating the extent of the damage with our insurance company, and they eventually realized what was needed and paid out on it five months after the incident. Our construction started on March 18th.

It hasn’t been an easy process. It’s emotionally draining on me because there were communication issues with our contractor that he wasn’t taking responsibility for. Then there were minor issues, but issues nonetheless. For instance, they installed waterproofing so the patio would be a dry area, but they cut through one of the barriers. Instead of realizing that was going to be an issue and fixing it themselves, I had to point it out. Then we went out there while it was raining to check it, only to see that there are 3 spots where water is just pouring through the seams. That just takes a lot out of me to have that conversation. They cracked off the top of our sewer cleanout, which not only made a mess in the yard, also caused a backup into our basement tub and toilet once it was glued back on because of a pressurizing issue (we think).

Then there are those hidden things that take energy, such as managing how to move money out of savings (while not exceeding the maximum of six transfers) and keeping track of all the bills, while ensuring the checking account has the right amount of money to cover the bills paid.

RENTAL PROPERTIES

Everyone paid rent on time! I had two technically pay on the 6th, but I sat waiting to see if it showed up before reaching out that morning. One of our tenants bought a house and vacated as of March 31st. They actually had left the house a little early, which was really helpful to us because the house needed a lot of work. The house had been flipped before we bought it. We knew everything was going to eventually need attention, but we hung on as long as possible. The neighborhood is really nice, so it was time to bring the state of the house up to a better standard. It had been “good enough” all these years, but there were definitely some items that should be replaced. This ended up being a huge overhaul, costing us over $10k. I’ll go into all the details in a future post.

NET WORTH

We’ve made a few substantial payments on the deck. We had been investing the money from the insurance company, while we waited for them to finish their estimates and then while waiting for the contractor to begin. Our taxable investment accounts have decreased a bit from that, and they’ll continue to decrease as this project finishes up in the next 2-3 weeks. The market is lower than it was a month ago, but our house values are starting their upward Spring trend, offsetting some of that loss. Overall, our net worth increased over the last month, but only by about $4,500 instead of the drastic increases we had been seeing month-to-month.

2023 in Review: Rentals

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After several years of very minimal time having to be put into rentals once they were rented, 2023 made up for it. We had a lot of damage to properties, a lot of tenant payment issues, and just a general “can we not talk about rentals for ONE week please” moments. But even with that frustration, this is still the best.

All of these stories were elaborated on in posts throughout the year. This is meant as a summary of all our activities. You can search for the stories through keywords on the website, or just email me, and I’ll elaborate.

PROPERTY MANAGEMENT

In January, I took over management of our Kentucky properties. When we moved here in 2020, it was easier to maintain status quo. In Virginia, we had established contacts in the trades we’d need, and we felt comfortable there. In Kentucky, since we hadn’t lived there, nor did we have direct management of the properties (plus, the property manager did a lot of work in house), we just left it alone and kept paying the management fees. We bought a 4th property in Kentucky in 2022, and I kept it under my management. Through that process, I grew more comfortable with the area and any trades people I would need. Then over the course of 2022, the property management issues finally were painful enough that we cut ties.

We had cut ties with our first management company who was doing zero of the work they were supposed to do. In the process, we learned a few ways we wanted to see a future management company operate. We negotiated some of the fees that this company had. I didn’t foresee how frustrating that would be. For instance, they’d charge us 10% of the contracted price when hiring a company if they couldn’t do something in house. I said, “that’s what management is, and what I’m paying you for monthly.” They agreed to not add 10% to contractor payments. But I never saw the invoices, even when I asked for them, so it was hard for me to know whether I was being charged by them correctly. It turns out, I was always charged that extra 10%, and I needed to request the refund, every single time.

Problems really got bad when a single employee claimed we didn’t pay something we had and immediately charged us for it (over $1,000). We had to get the owner of the company involved. It was a mess. I finally said that’s enough, and even though I had a one month old baby, I took over management. Luckily, we had a clause in our contract that allowed us to cancel the contract (by either party) with 30 days notice.

I met with each of the 3 properties’ tenants they had under management, and I executed my own leases with them. First, their lease was a mess and disorganized (and had errors that were crossed out and initialed). Second, I like having my template in place so that I know what it says, and how it’s laid out. I recently learned that my VA property manager’s lease didn’t have some key information I would have preferred to see there, so I even started using my leases for the properties she manages.

INSURANCE CLAIMS

After having no insurance claims for all our homeownership years, we had three this year. One was on our personal house, and two were rental properties. I covered our own issues in a previous post; a wind storm caused a tree to fall on our deck, one (well, one and a half) on the fence, and a few limbs on the driveway.

We had a bad wind storm come through in March. The tree fell from the back of the property and hit the roof of a rental property. By some miracle, there was not a single puncture of a limb into the house. The roof sustained the fall and weight of the tree. We didn’t even need to fix the roof, just the fascia board and gutter. Insurance was super easy to work with. An adjuster came out, reviewed the damage, and issued a check.

We had another rental property with the water heater in the attic (instead of the crawl space or just anywhere better conditioned than the attic). A 2-week freeze came through in December 2022, and it froze the pipes. When it thawed, water just poured through the ceiling and into the house. There was 2 inches of water everywhere. The ceiling in the master bedroom, master bathroom, laundry room, and part of the kitchen caved in. The walls in the master bedroom and bathroom needed to be taken down to the studs and rebuilt. The bottom 2′ of all the walls in the house had to be torn out and put back together. All the flooring (that we had put in 5 months earlier) had to be replaced. And with all of that said, it actually wasn’t that bad of a process. Since insurance covered everything, it was just what it was. If I had to pay for each step, it would have been more painful (in time, contractor management, and cost). We were “out of commission” for about 3 months, but insurance even covered lost rent.

I sit here and type this while my back deck is still damaged. By the time we got through our claim with the insurance company, we were months out from the contractor getting to us. I’m hoping it’ll be replaced by May.

MAINTENANCE CALLS

I was surprised to realize that we only replaced two dishwashers and one refrigerator this year. Then I realized it’s probably because we’ve replaced almost all the other ones in the last few years – yikes.

We had a house cited by the City for unsightly conditions in the front yard. The tenant mowed and cleaned up some things right away, and we hired someone to come cut up a fallen tree limb that we didn’t know about.

We had another house cited by insurance for not having a handrail on the front stoop (even though we’ve owned this house for 6 years at that point, with the same insurance). We had our handyman install one for us. While he was there, he fixed the ceiling in a bedroom where there had been water damage.

We paid for a flat roof to be fixed, after several years of fighting it and it continuing to leak (it’s so hard to find a roofer to work on a flat roof). That was a debacle because he was delayed for weeks, didn’t communicate, and then took it upon himself to change the scope of work. I wasn’t happy with the new scope and forced him to uphold the contract and do it right.

One house was completely painted during the turnover. We also had the tile and cast iron tub in that house newly epoxied (and then learned that it didn’t even last a year and is flaking).

We also had a new one – wildlife traps. A tenant had a raccoon living in her attic. The management company “fixed” it, but didn’t actually. I hired a professional when I took over management. They didn’t catch anything over the course of a few days, so they were confident nothing was in the attic. They then repaired the hole.

And then the usual – several plumbing/HVAC issues that were resolved throughout the year. Those will always be there. We had a big one with a water main line leak due to trees infiltrating the pipes (and unfortunately, that wasn’t the first time we’ve done that type of work).

We spent $15k across the 13 properties (some had $0 spent) on maintenance calls.

INCREASE IN TAXES AND INSURANCE

In November, I had posted about how our taxes and insurance charges have increased over the previous year. Our escrow accounts increased by $312 in payments. Our taxes were over $3,400 more than the previous year’s payments, and our insurance policies increased by over $1,000. Both the tax assessments and the replacement value costs were increased by these entities to reflect the higher home prices over the last few years, and that caused a higher-than-expected increase in all these costs. Some tax jurisdictions took their time in catching up their assessments to the skyrocketing prices of 2020/2021, but some took advantage of it right away. We have two houses where the taxes over the last 4 years have hardly changed, but we have others where the costs increased significantly.

INCREASE IN RENTAL INCOME

Our total income in 2023 increased from 2022 by almost $12,000. Although, I’ll note that we had over $4,000 paid from a rent relief program in January 2023 that really counted some towards 2022 amounts owed.

Most of my rent increases went into effect in 2022, just based on how the years played out. I had two properties increase by $50/month each in May 2023.

When the tenant flooded the house, we were able to upgrade a few things in there. In that time, the market rent always increased. So we went from $1200/month to $1600/month in rent over that time. It ended up being a problem because the new tenant lost her job, but that becomes a problem in 2024, after we struggled with her paying rent from October 1 through February.

We also had tenant turnover in another property, where the rent went from $800/month to $925/month. The previous tenant had been there several years. We had decent numbers (e.g., covering of expenses) on the house, and she kept struggling to pay on time, so I didn’t have the heart to increase the rent on her. It was my way of giving her a break because she had done something really big/difficult in her life. When we put it on the market, it wasn’t an ideal time of year, so we went low at $925. This tenant asked to leave mid-lease. We ended up re-renting the house at $995.

We had another tenant buy a house and vacate their lease early, leaving us to re-rent it for January 1. We were able to get someone in by February. Luckily, their lease break fee for that time of year was a month’s worth of rent, so we technically weren’t out of any income for that month-long gap. We were able to re-rent the house at $1,650 (from 1,350); that’s not realized until 2024 income though. We also took a leap of faith on this new tenant, who didn’t completely meet our criteria, but she asked for a chance; hopefully when I’m making this post next year, I haven’t regretted the decision to rent to her.

SUMMARY

This year, we had one tenant egregiously not pay rent on time, another tenant continuously pay late by a few days (although for their track record, paying 33% of payments due late is actually low), and a few who needed a bit more time (and communicated in advance) so we didn’t charge them a late fee. We had two houses with insurance claims, two major expenses (main water line replacement and flat roof repairs), and about $9k worth of other maintenance expenses on the houses.

I took over management of 3 of the 4 properties in Kentucky that were under a property manager. We added a house to the Virginia property manager’s portfolio. We had to turn over two properties in the winter wasn’t ideal, but we made it work. Technically, it was 3 properties over the winter, but one gave notice in 2024. We increased the rent on two houses by $50/month each to cover large increases in taxes and insurance payments.

Overall, this was a time-consuming year. We spent more time managing these properties and dealing with issues than any previous year. I can’t say that there was a single month where we just collected rent without any calls or discussion with a property manager. Heck, I could handle the “is it ok if I pay rent on the 9th” type messages, but this year was more than that. Here’s to hoping that everything is moving smoothly in 2024.

March Financial Update

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We’re just going to cut to the chase – $4 million net worth! I mentioned that this was a goal for this year. Unlike other years worth of large jumps because of purchasing houses, this was less in our control (granted, our market allocation decisions are what’s driving it…. and by “our,” I absolutely mean only Mr. ODA’s because I don’t do anything in that realm).

RENTALS

Well, we’ve had a quiet month. What’s going to be funny is, I’m going to list the things that we did. Quiet doesn’t mean silent or without effort, but we’ve had a rough go of it over the last year, so this was a welcomed break.

We had termites at a property. We pay $98 annually for their termite warranty program, since we found extensive termite damage and live termites when we bought the house. We’ve had to treat the house several times, so this $98 is a steal. However, I’m wondering why we keep needing to treat the house.

We paid $125 for a plumber to go out to a clogged sink. When we received the invoice, it was for 2 plumbers to go. Between the phone call that they were on their way and the tenant saying they were great, only 35 minutes had elapsed. The company charged us almost $300. Mr. ODA called to ask why they choose to send two plumbers to do a one-man job, while also charging us for it. The owner said it was for liability purposes, which Mr. ODA fought back on. They agreed to a reduced rate, but we were only charged $125, which was less than agreed upon.

We had our third tenant move in, after we unexpectedly had to turnover three houses in the middle of winter. We also were given notice by another tenant that she’s vacating by the end of March. We handled increases for two houses (one handled by a property manager to increase $50/month, and one handled by me to increase by $25/month).

We had one tenant pay on the morning of the 6th with no communication, so I did have our property manager let them know that’s not going to be ok. We also had a usual suspect pay late, with the late fee. However, their communication was frustrating. They said they’d pay on the 6th. At the end of the 6th, they said the money hadn’t cleared like they expected. No communication on the 7th. I asked for an updated on the morning of the 8th, and they said it would be that day. At 11 pm, I hadn’t received anything and reached out. I was then told that money was going into the ATM right then so that she could pay. Sometimes I wish I could do a deep dive into tenant finances so that I could help them out.

PERSONAL

Mr. ODA has a trip in July where a group of guys will hike in the Rockies. Our family is going out before that trip is scheduled to do our own exploring. We booked 4 round trip plane tickets, and Mr. ODA handled the lodging booking for the guys’ portion. That’s almost $3,000 worth of purchases, so our credit cards are higher than usual.

Speaking of the plane tickets. We purchased gift cards from Costco for Southwest. The gift cards are essentially $450 for $500 worth of purchasing power at Southwest. We bought two, therefore saving $100 on the tickets. For an extra few clicks on the computer, and the 15 minutes waiting time before the e-gift cards were delivered to my email, that’s $100 that can be used somewhere else.

We bought a new vanity for our bathroom. That was about $700 for the vanity, faucet, toilet flusher, and mirror. I sold the old vanity (in rough shape) for $30. And because I’m proud that I did most of it on my own, here’s a picture. I needed Mr. ODA’s help with the supply lines because I lost patience with how tightly they were screwed on and my lack of progress. I cut the baseboards down to size, except I somehow measured wrong on one quarter round cut (I was cutting while it was on the wall). Mr. ODA cut and installed the replacement piece for me.

We finished up the ski season. The kids did great. I was really proud of them for sticking with it. We used our season pass well (i.e., exceeding the cost had we bought individual tickets for each visit). I took two of the three kids to the aquarium, and we took the baby for a procedure at a local children’s hospital. We’ve started tee ball for our oldest. Our March is very full and busy, so we’re getting into the swing of things and keeping track of the schedule.

NET WORTH

Well, we far exceeded that $4 million goal. The market went up big, with our biggest changes being in our retirement account, IRAs, and cash. Our cash increase is offset by the lower amount in our Treasury account. Some of the short term bonds were transferred back into our savings account, and we’ve kept that money in savings since our deck replacement is slated to begin.

February Financial Update

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RENTALS

The rentals were expensive this month with $4600 paid out. This doesn’t include work that’s currently under way, but not paid for yet.

I paid for a water heater replacement, which was $1,904. I had to pay insurance on a larger property ($793). I paid the balance of the window replacement at one property, which was $1,064. I also paid for a plumber to address a leaking toilet and a rotted faucet ($325). We had a new tenant move into a vacant property, so we had that cleaned before her arrival ($165).

I had to pay for a plumber’s service call ($95) for clogged drains, for them to refer me to a rooter company ($250). I emailed that tenant that preventive measures need to be taken because I’ve not had so many calls to one property. She assured me they have taken appropriate measures and it’s just old pipes. The only problem being that we have several other properties with old pipes that never call for clogs.

We’ve turned over two properties and are about to turnover another property in the dead of winter. It’s so frustrating to be in such a position. All of those stories will be elaborated on in future posts.
– On one property, we charged a lease break fee of one month’s rent to cover our losses (the fee was different based on the month in which they broke the lease). Luckily, that covered our entire month of January being vacant, but we found someone for 2/1.
– Another tenant asked to leave a property because he lost his job. That was handled a bit different because we didn’t know in advance that this tenant would want to leave mid-lease. We told them there’s a fee of $250 (which is what it costs us to pay the property manager to find a new tenant), and that they had to pay rent until we found a new tenant. We didn’t lose any rent on that property.
– Now, we have a newly vacant property because the tenant can no longer afford it. I’m not expecting to recover her unpaid rent at this point. We approved a tenant to start 2/28, leaving us with 27 days of lost rent. However, we sent a lease over for them to sign. They’re currently dragging their feet on signing because they want to pay with their tax return. I don’t love that idea. They’ve been easy to communicate with up until this point, just slow. I’m hoping this gamble works out.

PERSONAL FINANCES

I had to transfer money to Mr. ODA’s account to cover the purchase of our new back door and a new treadmill (although that was only $400). This is an interesting concept for us. Mr. ODA had an account before we met. His account was grandfathered in to new terms and conditions at this bank. He’s kept his checking account and credit card for the rewards (I have access to the account; my name just isn’t on it). Any online purchases go on that credit card. However, that account only receives $250 every other week from Mr. ODA’s pay check (occasionally it’ll receive rent via Zelle). So sometimes, we need to transfer money from our main checking account to cover that credit card payment. All our security deposit accounts are with that bank too. So I had to then transfer from a security deposit account into his checking account, and then have him send that money to our main account. It wasn’t our finest money management moment.

Not much else happened this past month. We’ve gone skiing with the kids some more, I went on a moms’ cruise (which was amazing), took a small trip to piggyback Mr. ODA’s work trip, and have done activities around town. We’re gearing up for a procedure at a local children’s hospital next week, which I’m expecting will wipe out our deductible. Luckily that’s only $3,000, but I’m sure we’ll hit it. We’ll actually be late hitting it this year; it’s usually done in January.

NET WORTH

One of this year’s goal is to hit $4 million net worth. I thought it was going to be a ways away, but the market has been up big recently. We’re only about $14k away from that goal now!

January Financial Update

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As an intro for newbies: I write a monthly finance post. These posts started out as a way to manage our dollars spent per category. It evolved to show insight into my monthly money management and thought process. It’s also meant as a way to remind people that they should be looking at their money regularly.

Every month, I’m looking back at my spending, looking at trends on the higher level (e.g., why is my credit card higher than I expected), and sharing the rental property expenses and activities that I’ve accomplished.

I typically post on Thursdays. Unfortunately, life got in the way. I had 98% of this written, but I hadn’t updated our accounts until 10 pm, so this is now posting off-schedule, on Friday morning. Sorry about that!

RENTALS

I suppose with 13 houses, it’s inevitable that I’ll have to keep track of one.. or a few.. to collect their rent. One tenant is set up to pay twice per month (they pay a premium for this). They paid both parts of December late, and the first part of January late. They pay a late fee with that. I had two other tenants pay late by a few days, but they communicated this up front, and I didn’t collect late fees.

I’ve been sharing that I have a tenant who has been behind on rent since October 1 and has communicated very poorly. By the end of December, she was caught up with rent due, but no late fees. We’re now 11 days into January without any payment. My frustration with her was that she didn’t communicate at all for the first two months, and didn’t keep her word on anything that she said she was going to do, but didn’t tell us that something would change. I always say that I’m willing to help and work with you, but you have to talk to me. If I have to beg you to tell me what the plan is, I can’t help.

I paid a carpet cleaner $250 and paid a painter $2000 for a house that we’re turning over. The carpet was new before the last tenant, but they were there for over 3 years, so it had to be done. They didn’t damage the walls, but my property manager said that all the walls looked like different colors, and I didn’t trust “touching up” 4 year old paint. The paint looks amazing, so I’m happy I went for the whole house.

I paid just over $1000 as a deposit on 3 new windows for a house, which are scheduled to be replaced on Monday (a couple of weeks for new windows far exceeded my expectations!). We had replaced the majority of windows when we bought the house. However, at the time, the kitchen and bathroom windows were considered an irregular size, and we were told they were going to be $2000 just themselves, when we were paying $2000 for all the other windows. I don’t know what pricing scheme changed in 5 years, but now all sizes are the same price, and the 3 of them are $2000 now.

We had a tenant ask to be released from his lease, which we concurred to. We had terms associated with that, which I’ll share in a separate post. We were able to get a couple into that house with no loss of rent, which has been appreciated.

We’re under contract with our handyman to do work on a house, so that’s over $5,000 of cost that is waiting to rear its head out there.

PERSONAL

This was a month of spending in activities. I signed up for a 5k in August with “early bird” pricing, our daughter’s acro class had semester tuition due, and the kids’ monthly school tuition was paid as usual. Mr. ODA bought a new battery for his car and installed that. On somewhat of a whim, we replaced our back door, which was over $1100 added to Mr. ODA’s credit card.

Just before Christmas, we took a trip. It was just to Cincinnati, which we regularly do as a day-trip. However, we wanted to accomplish a few things this time around. We went to Top Golf for 90 minutes and lunch, let the baby nap at the AirBnB, went to Zoo Lights, spent the night, and then went skiing the next morning (the kids’ first time!). We already purchased season passes (and equipment) for skiing for 4 of us, and had already purchased the zoo annual membership. Without the cost of those two things, our trip cost $330 for Top Golf, lodging, parking (we stayed in the city), a ski lesson for our 5 year old, and food. Our lodging for 1 night was nearly $200 and was significantly more than we’d typically spend on lodging. However, we’re still in a phase of life where the baby needs the be in a space by himself so he sleeps for a nap and through the night. That means we look for a place with at least 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms, or 3 bedrooms and 1 bathroom (bonus points for master-sized closets or an extra bathroom with no windows for me to black out). We then made 2 day trips since then, and the kids are doing awesome on skis.

NET WORTH

Our cash has decreased, but that was offset to taxable investments because of our Treasury Direct accounts. Even with our extra spending, our credit card balances are comparable to last month’s. The increase in net worth from last month is mostly due to increases in our investment accounts.

This year’s goal is to hit $4 million net worth. Mr. ODA said that to our financial advisor via Instagram, and he didn’t share that publicly because it wasn’t relatable. The point in sharing here is that, well it’s January and people set goals, and to note that even if this goal specifically isn’t attainable to you in the short term, know that we also once had an account balance well below where we’re currently at. Consistent investing in the market (maxing out the 401k, maxing out the Roth IRAs, and establishing regular investing and watching the market) is a large contributing factor to where we are 10 years later. If I take the investment properties out of the equation, we’re still over $2 million net worth. That doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s something you can start working towards today.

New Year Organization

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I had a couple of posts teed up to reflect on last year’s finances and activities, but having some conversations with people made me realize that things that I find basic, aren’t for others. I thought I’d share some things that I do that help me be more successful (calm) in my day. I’m not an organization expert. I’m not the “lazy genius” that gets touted (although, I don’t see people executing what they learn there). I’ve found things over the years that have helped me keep my brain straight. This particular post isn’t financial related, but part 2 will be (but next week will be the monthly financial update, so come back in week 3 this month).

Even though I broke this up, it’s still long. Skim the middle, unless it’s pertinent to you, but the summary ties it up at the end.

I have my own home’s finances, thirteen rental properties, three kids with two in school (and they go different days of the week), investments (and Mr. ODA’s constant moving of money!), and whatever other ad hoc bills show up to manage. I don’t have the ability to think in a quiet and distraction-free environment after 7:30 am. I adapted so that I don’t feel stressed because I’m trying to pay bills while the baby is nipping at my heels and the 3 and 5 year olds are asking me for endless snacks.

Please note that I’m a stay at home mom that manages our rental properties part time and works ad hoc as a substitute. I fully acknowledge that all of this isn’t relatable to someone who is out of the house from 7 am until 5 pm, but I will point out that getting systems in place will make your shorter time at home less stressful.

For a real-time, real-life example, I’m frustrated because my writing of this post has bled into Mr. ODA and two kids being awake, and so I’m trying to finish my thoughts here while Kid #1 tells me about his 14 stuffed animals he brought down from his room, Kid #2 is telling me about her puppy and two babies, and Mr. ODA is asking me to meal plan for my dad’s visit. So here’s why I wake up before anyone else. 🙂

START YOUR DAY RIGHT

I wake up around 6:15 everyday. The kids are in preschool, which starts at 9. When my oldest starts school next year, I’ll start setting an alarm to be awake around 5:15 because I think he needs to be out the door at 6:45.

I know people who even say “I’m not a morning person,” who set an alarm and agree that starting your day without distractions from what you want to achieve makes for a better day.

I start my coffee and make something small for breakfast. I’ve learned that if I don’t eat something, then suddenly it’s 9:30, I’m frustrated by being asked for second breakfast by the kids while I haven’t eaten anything for myself (because if I make any move towards food, suddenly the kids NEED food right then also, even if they just ate). I eat something small, and then around 10 I have … I guess … “second breakfast.” I also learned that if I take time to actually sit and eat a bigger breakfast first thing in the morning, then I’m anxious to get to the other things that I want to do, so it doesn’t help me feel successful to the start of the day.

I empty the dishwasher. If you have young kids, maybe you’re lucky that they don’t see something and then immediately need that thing they wouldn’t have otherwise asked for, but I’d venture to say that’s not the majority. If I’m emptying the dishwasher and laying out their cups, waiting for their matching straw or lid to also get unloaded, they suddenly need milk in that specific cup. Therefore, I unload the dishwasher before anyone is awake and there’s no distraction.

I then make each kid their own water bottle. This was a surprising step to a few people recently. Sometimes this means just filling up the same water bottle as the day before, which is probably sitting on the counter from yesterday. Sometimes their water bottle was washed, so it was just unloaded from the dishwasher. I have specific water bottles that are our “everyday use” water bottles. They’re leakproof. They have a handle. This is what gets carted around when we leave the house. Having a full water cup means that I’m not in the middle of doing something and being asked for water. I refill the water at lunch and dinner, but sometimes there’s a request for more in between.

I set their water bottle and their respective vitamin on the table. When the kids wake up, they go to the table, eat their vitamin, and put their breakfast request in. Sometimes, I’m really on top of things, and I make a breakfast before they wake up (e.g., not cereal). If there’s a plate of food in their “spot,” then they typically just sit at the table and eat it. Most mornings, I’m giving a list of a few options and letting them pick.

I prepare their snack and water for school, if it’s a school day. Again, if I start rummaging through the pantry while they’re awake, they suddenly have preferences and questions. It’s better if I just have it done. As a compromise, I offered my oldest the ability to pick out his own snack every Friday. He wakes up before anyone else, so I have him pick it out before #2 wakes up (who wants everything #1 has or is doing).

If it’s a day that I want to pay bills and/or update our financial tracking spreadsheet, then I also make time for that before anyone wakes up. I can run through our finances in about 10 minutes without distraction. Sometimes, my son wakes up before I get to it, and then for 30 minutes I’m fielding questions about stuffed animals while also trying to keep track of what I’ve already updated.

I know a lot of people lay out their kids clothes the night before. Perhaps this will become part of my routine when my oldest needs to be out the door at 6:45, but at this point, we have plenty of time in the morning to get dressed and ready.

MIDDAY RESETS

I’ve consistently used a child’s nap time to reset the house. Pick up toys that are out (not everything, but most of what hasn’t been touched for a few hours). Clean up any dishes that have been left out. This started with my first’s nap time, and was really because I couldn’t physically sit and relax while I saw toys scattered around the floor or dishes piled on the counter. It has evolved over the years as we’ve had more kids, but the general gist is the same – give it a quick reset, but not a perfect clean up. It’s going to get messed up again before bed time, but it’ll be less items to manage at that time.

Now that my kids are a little older, I task them with it too. Since tidying our house has always been something they’ve seen, they do it well. While I put the baby down for a nap, it indicates that it’s time for them to straighten up. If they put their “morning toys” away, they get to watch a couple of episodes of a show.

I’m a stickler for pieces of toys to stay with each other, so this helps manage that toys don’t have pieces go missing. It also gives everyone a fresh slate to pick out new toys to play with, and it helps no one feel overwhelmed by the state of the room.

I clean up anything left over from lunch, wipe down the table and high chair, and at least get the dishes to the sink, if not the dishwasher. I used to fight anything being left in the sink, but I’ve let go of that.

I then use the baby’s nap time and the bigger kids’ tv time to make any phone calls needed, catch up on any financial things I didn’t get to in the morning, or clean a room.

END YOUR DAY RIGHT

Reset your house.

The two big kids go to bed around 6:30. After they’re in bed, I pick up most toys and clean up after dinner. When I clean, I focus on one room at a time. I start in the living room because rarely am I going to find something in the kitchen that belongs in the living room, but I’ll have items in the living room that need to go to the kitchen.

From the living room, I put any toys away that belong in that room. If a toy is meant to be in the basement, it gets put at the top of the stairs. If there’s a bedroom-related item that got left behind, it gets put at the bottom of the stairs. In both those cases, when someone walks to that area, they’re supposed to bring that to the next floor; in reality, I’m the only one who really does that. If there’s a cup or a plate, it gets put on the kitchen table (because that’s the closest to the living room). The point here is to work in phases. Don’t exert the energy to carry one toy all the way to the basement, to then see that another toy got left under the kitchen table and needs to go to the basement. This makes the task overwhelming.

Once everything is picked up, I move to the kitchen table area. All plates and cups (including whatever I’ve added from the living room), get moved to the kitchen peninsula. The baby’s high chair gets wiped clean, the table and chairs get wiped cleaned, and the dog’s food and water bowls get filled.

In the kitchen, I clear the counters first. Everything goes where it belongs – refrigerated items go to the fridge, any spices left out are put in the cabinet, leftovers are stored away. The goal is to get all the counters cleared off, leaving the dishes in the sink for last. If the stove needs wiped down, I do that once the counters are cleared because the grates need to be placed on the counter. Then I load the dishwasher from the sink and rinse out the sink. I can either rinse the sink after I’m done clearing it, or I can scrub hardened on food in the morning. Put the effort in to do it right so that it’s not a bigger task later.

The baby goes to sleep around 8, so after his bedtime, there’s usually more toys to pick up and a few more dishes that were used.

Then the dishwasher is turned on before bed. Our dishwasher runs for 2 hours. While sometimes it’s overflowing and needs to be run mid-day, it’s more likely that we run it every other night, after we’ve cleaned up the last of our things that need to be loaded from the day.

If I don’t do these things at the end of the night, then they bleed over into my morning chore list. I usually don’t have any “extra” time for my morning chores, so I prefer to focus on my night time to-do list as often as possible.

WEEKLY TASKS

There are things that need to be done, but they’re not done daily. For one, the bathrooms need to be cleaned. I knew someone who said “Sunday is for bathrooms.” She knew that every Sunday, she’d tackle cleaning the bathrooms. I loved that there was a system. I can’t say I’m consistent in that though. I try to remember to vacuum upstairs once a week, but the first floor probably gets vacuumed every other day. One thing that I did that has helped me clean bathrooms more often is that I keep a glass cleaner, all purpose cleaner, and a roll of paper towels upstairs. This means that I’m not thinking, “I should clean this bathroom,” but having to walk downstairs to get supplies and carry them back upstairs.

I change the kids sheets every two weeks. I try to do laundry in order of how it’ll go back on the bed. If I need to wash their blankets and comforter, then I wash the sheets first (since it all doesn’t fit in one load), this way I can get that step done while the blankets are being washed. If I wash the comforter first, then I have to do the entire thing all at once when the sheets are ready (note: my daughter will take any sheets on her bed, but son only wants his Paw Patrol sheets, which is why this system is complicated).

As for laundry, I don’t have any perfect answers, except that piled of laundry do not overflow our hampers. I used to wash our clothes separate from the kids’ clothes because I’d prefer to fold our bigger clothes than theirs, but now it’s a crapshoot. One thing that I have found helpful is that I sort the clean laundry into piles per person. Then I carry the pile into the respective kids’ room, fold it in there, and put it away right then. While my laundry may sit in the dryer for a day or two, this at least gets it folded and put away a lot faster than it used to be. Sometimes I force myself to fold by putting a load of towels in behind the clothes. This means I need to clear the dryer, but it won’t be as daunting because I’ll have the “reward” of “just” towels behind it. Ha!

SUMMARY

The goal here is simple: eliminate stressors that I have control over. I get things done when I don’t have to also manage 74897 toddler questions and a crying baby. I get my house organized before I go to sleep so that I am not overwhelmed by clutter and tasks first thing in the morning.

I’ve seen multiple articles over the last few years that talk about reducing clutter in your house to make yourself feel better. That when your house is cluttered, it makes your brain feel cluttered and exhibits a physically negative reaction. There are distractions everywhere you look that are taking brain power and exhausting you. If you come up with a system that gets kids’ toys out of plain view, that gets your kitchen counter cleared off and the dishes into the dishwasher when dirty, and eliminates piles of papers that will take you an hour to go through and organize, you’ll physically feel more calm and be able to tackle more.

Additionally, just staying on top of little tasks in a “system” you create that works for you and your household makes each day feel more manageable. I do a quick 10-minute reset of the house at nap time. This means that I’m not left with all toys and dishes and mess to deal with at the end of the day when I’m tired. I clean up room-by-room, creating piles of items that need to go to a different room, rather than putting each individual item exactly where it goes as soon as I touch it.

I’ll also point out that even though I use “I” throughout this, it’s a team effort with Mr. ODA. He cooks, cleans up the kitchen, straightens up, etc.